The Sex Talks with Dr. Frankie

Top 10 Must Have Sex Toys of 2025: Vibrators, Couples’ Toys, and More!

In this video, Dr. Frankie dives into one of the most overlooked but exciting corners of tech: sex toys. While AI and self-driving cars steal the headlines, the real innovations shaping people’s intimate lives are often tucked away in a bedside drawer. The video highlights the top 10 must-have sex toys for 2025, focusing on body-safe materials, thoughtful design, and versatility — from air pressure stimulators like the Womanizer Pro to multipurpose toys like the Nubii Siren Vibe and b-Vibe’s remote-controlled rimming plug.

Dr. Frankie also emphasizes why quality and safety matter when shopping for toys, breaking down the importance of non-toxic materials and easy-to-clean designs. Whether you’re exploring solo or with a partner, the curated list covers toys for a variety of experiences — including suction toys, G-spot vibrators, and harness-friendly dildos. She wraps it up with smart advice on where to shop, steering viewers away from mass-market sites like Amazon and toward trusted, ethical retailers and local shops.

Trusted retailers for these products:
Tantus: https://bit.ly/4jzeAuE
Good Vibes: https://bit.ly/3G8Qf0k
Shevibe: https://bit.ly/3ROZOUw
Babeland: https://bit.ly/4ibDzTy
b-Vibe: https://bit.ly/3ElOcp2
Spectrum Boutique: https://bit.ly/4ikBo0b

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Dr. Frankie is the CEO & Founder of LittleGayBook.com, which focuses on personalized matchmaking and singles events for lesbians, bisexual women, and trans women and has successfully connected couples across the United States for the last decade and a half.

Little Gay Book also hosts lesbian/bi fast flirting events all over the country. Join our email list to be the first to know: http://bit.ly/2dbvmEs

In 2022 Dr. Frankie presented a TedX talk focusing on the topic of sexual fluidity. You can view it here: https://youtu.be/mIjAqACtCLg

Her latest venture is as CEO & Founder of LittleBlackBookMatchmaking.com, specializing in personalized matchmaking and singles events for heterosexual singles.

Dr. Frankie’s coaching is based in Northern California, but clients can access her services via Zoom from around the globe. To learn more about working with Dr. Frankie 1:1: please visit this URL: https://littlegaybook.com/coaching/

You can follow Dr. Frankie:

SUBSCRIBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/littlegaybook
WEB: https://www.littlegaybook.com
WEB: https://www.littleblackbookmatchmaking.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/drfrankiebashan/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/littlegaybookmatchmaking/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/lgbtq.matching/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/lgbtq_exp/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/littlegaybook/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/frankie.bashan/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lgbtq.matching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lgbtq.exp
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drfrankiebashan
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@littlegaybook
TW: https://twitter.com/littlegaybook
TEDX: https://youtu.be/mIjAqACtCLg
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drfrankiebashan/
Yelp: https://www.yelp.com/biz/little-gay-book-oakland
Create a Matchmaking Profile: https://littlegaybook.com/create-a-matchmaking-profile-socials/

BUSINESS ONLY: drfrankie@littlegaybook.com

Affiliate Disclaimer: Little Gay Book may earn commissions from qualifying purchases made through links on our channel. These commissions help to support our work in providing valuable content to our viewers. Rest assured, this does not affect the price you pay for any products or services. We only recommend products that we genuinely believe will bring value to our audience.

Exploring BDSM: A Complete Guide to Fetishes and Kinks

In this video, we’re diving into the basics of BDSM, exploring power dynamics, bondage, discipline, and more. Whether you’re new to BDSM or looking to try something new, we’ll guide you through what to expect and how to get started safely.

Learn how to communicate with your partner, experiment with power dynamics, and ensure safety with simple tools like safewords. Ready to explore? Watch now and start your journey!

Guide to Foreplay: Expert Advice for Better Intimacy and Connection

When sex with your partner feels a little off — even when the chemistry is there — it might not be about your attraction or your relationship at all. Often, it comes down to the quality (or lack) of foreplay. Foreplay isn’t just a warm-up; it’s a key part of the sexual experience, especially when it comes to feeling relaxed, turned on, and emotionally connected. In this guide, we’re breaking down what foreplay actually is, why it matters, and how to do it better — so that the whole experience feels hotter, more satisfying, and way more fun for everyone involved.

Vibrators: https://bit.ly/4iVeOw3
Cuffs: https://bit.ly/3XMOxHZ
Paddle: https://bit.ly/42wuIHs
Plug: https://bit.ly/3RBmiIz
Prostate Toy: https://bit.ly/3FXyNvH
Massage Oil: https://bit.ly/3EbdAh5
Massage Candle: https://bit.ly/4ciAdgc

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Dr. Frankie is the CEO & Founder of LittleGayBook.com, which focuses on personalized matchmaking and singles events for lesbians, bisexual women, and trans women and has successfully connected couples across the United States for the last decade and a half.

Little Gay Book also hosts lesbian/bi fast flirting events all over the country. Join our email list to be the first to know: http://bit.ly/2dbvmEs

In 2022 Dr. Frankie presented a TedX talk focusing on the topic of sexual fluidity. You can view it here: https://youtu.be/mIjAqACtCLg

Her latest venture is as CEO & Founder of LittleBlackBookMatchmaking.com, specializing in personalized matchmaking and singles events for heterosexual singles.

Dr. Frankie’s coaching is based in Northern California, but clients can access her services via Zoom from around the globe. To learn more about working with Dr. Frankie 1:1: please visit this URL: https://littlegaybook.com/coaching/

You can follow Dr. Frankie:

SUBSCRIBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/littlegaybook
WEB: https://www.littlegaybook.com
WEB: https://www.littleblackbookmatchmaking.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/drfrankiebashan/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/littlegaybookmatchmaking/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/lgbtq.matching/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/lgbtq_exp/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/littlegaybook/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/frankie.bashan/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lgbtq.matching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lgbtq.exp
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drfrankiebashan
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@littlegaybook
TW: https://twitter.com/littlegaybook
TEDX: https://youtu.be/mIjAqACtCLg
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drfrankiebashan/
Yelp: https://www.yelp.com/biz/little-gay-book-oakland
Create a Matchmaking Profile: https://littlegaybook.com/create-a-matchmaking-profile-socials/

BUSINESS ONLY: drfrankie@littlegaybook.com

Affiliate Disclaimer: Little Gay Book may earn commissions from qualifying purchases made through links on our channel. These commissions help to support our work in providing valuable content to our viewers. Rest assured, this does not affect the price you pay for any products or services. We only recommend products that we genuinely believe will bring value to our audience.

Tips for Better Queer Sex: Pleasure, Safety and Healthy Connections

Want better queer sex? This video breaks down everything you need to know—from building trust and setting boundaries to exploring pleasure and staying safe. Queer sex is expansive, personal, and all about communication. Whether you’re new to it or looking to level up, these tips will help you navigate intimacy with confidence. Watch now!

Recommended Books:

Queer Sex
https://bookshop.org/a/102599/9781785924064

Getting It
https://bookshop.org/a/102599/9781984857156

Carnal Knowledge: Sex Education You Didn’t Get in School
https://amzn.to/3DZ3xf7

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Dr. Frankie is the CEO & Founder of LittleGayBook.com, which focuses on personalized matchmaking and singles events for lesbians, bisexual women, and trans women and has successfully connected couples across the United States for the last decade and a half.

Little Gay Book also hosts lesbian/bi fast flirting events all over the country. Join our email list to be the first to know: http://bit.ly/2dbvmEs

In 2022 Dr. Frankie presented a TedX talk focusing on the topic of sexual fluidity. You can view it here: https://youtu.be/mIjAqACtCLg

Her latest venture is as CEO & Founder of LittleBlackBookMatchmaking.com, specializing in personalized matchmaking and singles events for heterosexual singles.

Dr. Frankie’s coaching is based in Northern California, but clients can access her services via Zoom from around the globe. To learn more about working with Dr. Frankie 1:1: please visit this URL: https://littlegaybook.com/coaching/

You can follow Dr. Frankie:

SUBSCRIBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/littlegaybook
WEB: https://www.littlegaybook.com
WEB: https://www.littleblackbookmatchmaking.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/drfrankiebashan/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/littlegaybookmatchmaking/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/lgbtq.matching/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/lgbtq_exp/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/littlegaybook/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/frankie.bashan/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lgbtq.matching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lgbtq.exp
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drfrankiebashan
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@littlegaybook
TW: https://twitter.com/littlegaybook
TEDX: https://youtu.be/mIjAqACtCLg
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drfrankiebashan/
Yelp: https://www.yelp.com/biz/little-gay-book-oakland
Create a Matchmaking Profile: https://littlegaybook.com/create-a-matchmaking-profile-socials/

BUSINESS ONLY: drfrankie@littlegaybook.com

Affiliate Disclaimer: Little Gay Book may earn commissions from qualifying purchases made through links on our channel. These commissions help to support our work in providing valuable content to our viewers. Rest assured, this does not affect the price you pay for any products or services. We only recommend products that we genuinely believe will bring value to our audience.

Sex After Pregnancy: When Can You Have Sex With Your Partner

Sex After Pregnancy: When Can You Have Sex With Your Partner? | Dr. Frankie

Bringing a baby into the world is life-changing, and so is what happens to your body, emotions, and relationships afterward. In this video, Dr. Frankie shares postpartum intimacy tips to help you navigate the changes in sex after childbirth—from understanding the healing time after childbirth to overcoming common physical changes postpartum that may impact your comfort and desire.

We’ll cover:
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Adjusting to life with a baby is tough, but your postpartum intimacy journey doesn’t have to be confusing. Whether you’re eager to be intimate again or struggling with the changes, this video will help you navigate restoring connection after baby in a way that works for you.

Recommended Books:

Reviving Your Sex Life After Childbirth: Your Guide to Pain-free and Pleasurable Sex After the Baby
https://amzn.to/4hFjeWA

From Ouch! To Ahhh…: The New Mom’s Guide To Sex After Baby
https://amzn.to/4j2Ic3o

Get Your Mojo Back: Sex, Pleasure and Intimacy After Birth
https://amzn.to/4ciSUk9

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#PostpartumIntimacyTips #SexAfterChildbirth #HealingTimeAfterChildbirth #PhysicalChangesPostpartum #EmotionalIntimacyPostpartum #TipsForNewParents #SexDriveAfterChildbirth #RestoringConnectionAfterBaby #CommunicatingWithPartnerPostpartum #OvercomingPostpartumChallenges

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Dr. Frankie is the CEO & Founder of LittleGayBook.com, which focuses on personalized matchmaking and singles events for lesbians, bisexual women, and trans women and has successfully connected couples across the United States for the last decade and a half.

Little Gay Book also hosts lesbian/bi fast flirting events all over the country. Join our email list to be the first to know: http://bit.ly/2dbvmEs

In 2022 Dr. Frankie presented a TedX talk focusing on the topic of sexual fluidity. You can view it here: https://youtu.be/mIjAqACtCLg

Her latest venture is as CEO & Founder of LittleBlackBookMatchmaking.com, specializing in personalized matchmaking and singles events for heterosexual singles.

Dr. Frankie’s coaching is based in Northern California, but clients can access her services via Zoom from around the globe. To learn more about working with Dr. Frankie 1:1: please visit this URL: https://littlegaybook.com/coaching/

You can follow Dr. Frankie:

SUBSCRIBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/littlegaybook
WEB: https://www.littlegaybook.com
WEB: https://www.littleblackbookmatchmaking.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/drfrankiebashan/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/littlegaybookmatchmaking/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/lgbtq.matching/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/lgbtq_exp/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/littlegaybook/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/frankie.bashan/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lgbtq.matching
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lgbtq.exp
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drfrankiebashan
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@littlegaybook
TW: https://twitter.com/littlegaybook
TEDX: https://youtu.be/mIjAqACtCLg
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drfrankiebashan/
Yelp: https://www.yelp.com/biz/little-gay-book-oakland
Create a Matchmaking Profile: https://littlegaybook.com/create-a-matchmaking-profile-socials/

BUSINESS ONLY: drfrankie@littlegaybook.com

Affiliate Disclaimer: Little Gay Book may earn commissions from qualifying purchases made through links on our channel. These commissions help to support our work in providing valuable content to our viewers. Rest assured, this does not affect the price you pay for any products or services. We only recommend products that we genuinely believe will bring value to our audience.

How to Stay Safe on LGBTQ+ Dating Apps

Exploring LGBTQ+ dating apps can be fun, but staying safe is essential. In this video, we share top tips for protecting your privacy, identifying red flags, and ensuring safe meetups. Whether you’re new to dating apps or experienced, learn how to set boundaries and enjoy dating with confidence. Don’t miss these crucial LGBTQ+ dating safety tips!

How to Have the “What Are We” Conversation

“Dating” in 2023 — or really in the broadly contemporary era of the last few generations — is a concept that’s grown to encompass many things. In general, this is a good thing; I think we’re all glad we aren’t still stuck with a Jane Austen-esque courtship model, where we’d need relatives to chaperone us or else be considered damaged goods forever. However, that does mean that the exact type of “dating” we’re doing — casual? exclusive? serious? friends with benefits? situationship? — feel a little unclear, especially in the early weeks or months.
The price we pay for a more dynamic dating culture that allows for a greater range of options outside of marriage for the purpose of ensuring property inheritance is that we need to communicate directly if we want to be on the same page. While direct communication is ideally an everyday part of any dating dynamic, from deciding the restaurant for dinner to sharing your thoughts and feelings, communicating about the exact nature of your dating dynamic is a specific project — a “what are we?” conversation. It’s a time to check in about a) how things are going now and b) where they’re going in the future: is this a serious relationship? Do we want it to be? Are our wants and needs for a relationship aligned? These can strike fear into the hearts of even the most seasoned daters, but they don’t need to! Here’s my advice for making a “what are we?” conversation go as smoothly as possible.

Pre-empt the conversation altogether by stating what you’re looking for

If you’ve ever used a dating app and seen a bio (or written one!) that reads “Not really sure what I’m looking for…” you can easily see how you could end up consistently having conversations with your dates about what you’re doing a few months in. As difficult as it can feel, the easiest way to have a successful “what are we” conversation with someone you’re dating is by having it before you even start: by being clear about what you’re looking for and asking them directly what they’re looking for, and only moving forward with people who have desires that match up with yours.

What does this look like? It helps to clearly state what you’re looking for if you do have any kind of dating app practice: adding “looking for my life partner” or “not looking for anything serious right now, but would love to go on dates 2-3 times a month.” If you’re meeting people in other contexts (or realistically, even if you are meeting them on dating apps), it makes a world of difference to just ask them directly. I know this can seem scary, but I promise it’s helpful to ask something like this, “So, what are you looking for right now? I’m looking for a serious long term relationship ultimately but having fun meeting people and getting to know them in the meantime” this isn’t as hard as it may seem — just remember to share where you’re at if you’re going to ask someone a vulnerable question about themselves. The key with this strategy is that if someone shares they’re looking for something very different than you are, you have to commit to gracefully walking away — “It was so great meeting you; it sounds like we’re looking for different things so I don’t think dating is on the table right now, but best of luck!”

Be clear about what your goals for the conversation are

Often, our concept of the “what are we” conversation revolves around the other person’s feelings, putting them in the position of almost giving us a verdict. We imagine asking someone “so, where do you see this going?” and hoping that they give us the “right” answer — the one we were hoping for.
This isn’t a recipe for success — putting the other person on the spot like this puts a lot of pressure on them, and also puts us in a position of giving up our agency and power; we’re helpless as we wait for their response. This sets both people up for stress and resentment, which doesn’t bode well for a productive conversation. Instead, think about what you actually want out of this check-in. Is there a specific response you’re hoping for from the other person? What outcome do you want from this relationship? Do you know? Are there multiple directions the relationship could take that you’d be okay with? How important is this to you? If the other person isn’t on the same page as you, is that a dealbreaker?

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Video Category: The Sex Talks with Dr. Frankie

Top 10 Must Have Sex Toys of 2025: Vibrators, Couples’ Toys, and More!

Exploring BDSM: A Complete Guide to Fetishes and Kinks

Guide to Foreplay: Expert Advice for Better Intimacy and Connection

Tips for Better Queer Sex: Pleasure, Safety and Healthy Connections

Sex After Pregnancy: When Can You Have Sex With Your Partner

How to Stay Safe on LGBTQ+ Dating Apps

How to Have the “What Are We” Conversation

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