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bespoke GBTQ+ matchmaking

Helping Gay, Bi, Trans & Queer Men Find Genuine Connection

bespoke GBTQ+ matchmaking

Helping Gay, Bi, Trans & Queer Men Find Genuine Connection

A More Intentional Way To Find Love

At Little Gay Book, gay matchmaking is not a platform, a list of profiles to swipe past or an algorithm making guesses on your behalf. It’s a deeply personalised process – built on real conversation, genuine understanding and nearly two decades of matchmaking expertise.

Gay dating comes with its own dynamics. The apps, the avoidance, the cat and mouse. The feeling that everyone’s keeping one eye on what else is out there. We get it – and we work differently. Every introduction is intentional, every match thoughtfully selected and every step designed to move you closer to the kind of connection you’ve stopped believing is possible.

Take The Relationship Readiness Quiz

You know what you want. But do you know what’s been getting in the way? Take our two-minute Enhanced Relationship Readiness Quiz to understand where you are right now – and what your next step toward lasting connection actually looks like.

What You Can Expect From Matchmaking

  • Every introduction is hand-selected by an expert gay matchmaker who understands your values, your identity and your long-term goals
  • Each match is vetted for alignment in lifestyle, communication style, emotional readiness and relationship vision
  • Our gay matchmaking service searches one of the largest, most diverse GBTQ+ directories in the country – built over 17 years
  • You receive tailored assessments, compatibility reviews and a roadmap designed specifically to help you grow
  • From date planning to post-date debriefs, you’re supported with insight, coaching and clarity at every stage
  • Our work helps you understand your patterns and step into dating with confidence, calm and real intention

how does it work?

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Start with a private profile

Everyone begins with a short profile that places you into our private internal directory – a confidential space our matchmakers use behind the scenes. It’s never public, never searchable and never something you browse. It simply helps us get to know you.

2

Tell us what you’re looking for

Eligible singles are invited to complete a more detailed profile and speak with us about what you’re genuinely looking for. This is where we begin to understand what you need – and whether our premier gay matchmaking program is the right next step.

3

Join our matchmaking program

We only move forward with clients we genuinely believe we can match well. If it’s a fit, you’ll enter a structured, supportive process that includes a personal assessment, a compatibility review and a bespoke plan for finding lasting love.

4

Meet matches chosen just for you

Once you’re in the program, your matchmaker hand-selects each introduction based on values, lifestyle and long-term alignment. We arrange the dates and debrief with you afterward – building clarity, confidence and momentum with every step.

Ready to Meet Your Match?      Start Matching

Find Your Special Someone With Gay Matchmaking

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Whichever option you choose, your result will be an intentional journey that helps you move beyond frustration – and toward the relationship you’ve always envisioned.

meet your principal matchmaker

Dr. Frankie Bashan

Finding love should feel exciting, not exhausting – but modern gay dating rarely makes it easy. The apps, the ghosting, the sense that real connection keeps slipping just out of reach. It can leave even the most grounded, self-aware men feeling like they’re running in circles.

I’m Dr. Frankie, Founder and Principal Matchmaker at Little Gay Book. As a clinical psychologist, board-certified sex therapist and LGBTQ+ matchmaking expert with nearly two decades of experience, I’ve helped gay, bi, trans and queer men move past the patterns that keep them stuck – and into relationships that feel genuine, joyful and lasting.

Our bespoke gay matchmaking program is the most personal and transformative way we work with clients – a human-led, deeply attuned process designed to support you, champion you and guide you toward the kind of love that truly fits.

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Hear from our happy clients

dan and jesse

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I was dating and had gone the online route. I was dating and had gone the online route, but living in the burbs, connections were far and few in between. It was challenging to find matches who really clicked with my values. That’s when I turned to the LGB team for a more personalized approach.

They quickly grasped what I was looking for—not just a partner, but a soulmate. The change was dramatic. Soon, I met someone incredible. We’re still getting to know each other, but it’s been an exciting and deeply fulfilling journey so far.

dan

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Working with Dr. Frankie, there was a closeness where I really felt that she understood my identity, my background, where I might be coming from and what I might be looking for. I felt she was someone who had my best interest at heart and really cared about me, which made the process feel unexpectedly natural.

jesse

ben and jake

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Working with Dr. Frankie, I discovered layers of myself that were waiting to shine. Each session with Dr. Frankie brought new insights and a deeper connection to myself. Her approach is transformative—she guides with wisdom and genuine care. Now, I step forward with confidence and authenticity, prepared to meet not just any partner, but the right one. I am truly grateful to Dr. Frankie for empowering me to be my best self. Her support has made a meaningful difference in my life, and I hope my experience encourages others to seek their own growth and empowerment.

ben

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