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Dr. Frankie Bashan

In Case We Haven’t Met Yet,
Let Me Introduce Myself…

I’m Dr. Frankie, a clinical psychologist, and relationship, dating, and sex coach. I’m the founder of the Little Gay Book Community and owner of the only High-End Matchmaking Agency exclusively for Lesbian/Bi/Trans singles in the country.

I’ve worked as a psychologist for over 20 years where I’ve personally helped hundreds of people with their sexual identity, heal their trauma, and save their relationships. I’ve also privately coached and trained countless lesbians on dating, sex, and relationships and have completed over 25,000 matchmaking introductions in the last decade- with one of the highest matchmaking success rates in the industry.

My expertise has been featured on TV, Radio and Print, nationwide, including a 2020 winter TEDx Talk, in addition to debuting as the Relationship Expert for Season 8 of MTV’s Historic “Are You The One,” Love Reality Series, featuring the first 100% sexually fluid cast on television.

I’ve dedicated my life to helping Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Identifying singles find love. Nothing brings me more joy!

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I was dating and had gone the online route.

It was great, I met a lot of really amazing women. But I was craving more of a connection. I was ready to do something completely different. There were moments where I thought “you are going to pay for a date, you are crazy!”. But clearly who I was choosing wasn’t working and I was ready to put it in someone else’s hands. The confidence in working with Dr. Frankie provided a level of trust that was the only option for me.”


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where I really felt that she understood my identity, my background, where I might be coming from and what I might be looking for. I felt she was someone who had my best interest at heart and really cared about me, which made the process feel unexpectedly natural.”

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Hi Dr. Frankie, in our last 30-min private

session for “Single, Sexy, & Queer” you mentioned to let you know if things went well with my dates. The particular dates that I talked about during the session didn’t work out. But your advice really gave me confidence and clarity to move forward, and I was able to meet someone after that, who is now my girlfriend 🙂

The whole experience with SSQ, your private sessions, and LGB community not only gave me the support to start a new relationship but also gave me the confidence to maintain and nurture it. I know you’re super busy but just wanted to let you know how much it made a difference in my life. Thank you so much, Dr. Frankie!

Best, Nina”

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Upcoming Events & Programs

December 3, 2023,
2:30pm MT

Denver Lesbian/Bi/Trans/Queer Speed Dating

December 5, 2023, 6pm PT

Seattle In Person Queer and Trans Speed Dating for 30s and 40s

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40s and 50s Lesbian, Bi, Queer and Trans Speed Dating

December 9, 2023,
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Los Angeles: In Person Lesbian, Queer, and Trans Speed Dating

December 14, 2023, 5pm PT

In Your 30s Queer and Trans Speed Dating

January 7, 2024,
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Denver Lesbian/Bi/Trans/Queer Speed Dating

January 11, 2024,
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30’s and 40’s Queer and Trans Online Speed Dating

January 16, 2024, 8pm ET

Boston In Person Lesbian/Bi/Queer and Trans Speed Dating for 20’s and 30’s

January 16, 2024, 6pm ET

Boston In Person Lesbian/Bi/Queer and Trans Speed Dating for 45 +

January 18, 2024,
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Career Minded Online Queer and Trans Speed Dating

January 25, 2024, 4pm PT

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