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So, you’ve tried everything when it comes to dating? Think again…Take this 2-minute quiz to find your shade of gay and level-up your love game. Discover your spot on the butch-femme spectrum, get a full report of how to use it to your advantage, and get ready to find where your perfect person is hiding (hint: they might be closer than you think).

Dr. Frankie Bashan

In Case We Haven’t Met Yet,
Let Me Introduce Myself…

I’m Dr. Frankie, a clinical psychologist, relationship, dating, and sex coach, founder of the Little Gay Book Community for Professional Singles, and owner of the only High End Lesbian Matchmaking Agency exclusively for women in the country.

I’ve worked as a psychologist for over 20 years where I’ve personally helped hundreds of people with their sexual identity, heal their trauma, and save their relationships. I’ve also privately coached and trained countless lesbians on dating, sex, and relationships and have completed over 25,000 matchmaking introductions in the last decade- with one of the highest matchmaking success rates in the industry.

My expertise has been featured on TV, Radio and Print, nationwide, including a 2020 winter TEDx Talk, in addition to debuting as the Relationship Expert for Season 8 of MTV’s Historic “Are You The One,” Love Reality Series, featuring the first 100% sexually fluid cast on television.

I’ve dedicated my life to helping Lesbian and Bisexual Identifying Women find love. Nothing brings me more joy!

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It takes courage

to believe in deep, lasting love.
Congratulations for finding your way here!
I have worked tirelessly to create a space
for you to be loved as you are,
without apology or explanation.

Whether you are very career driven, or are just getting out of a long term relationship, or have been swept up with raising kids, or maybe you’ve come out later in life, it can feel overwhelming when you clear the decks and begin your search to find HER.

I am gifted with the ability to bring together beautiful hearts like yours, it is my life’s purpose.

Dr. Frankie Bashan

Here are the most popular, low-risk ways
I’ve created to help you find your special someone:

Speed Dating

Singles Community
LGB Membership

Compatibility &Clarity Session

Jill surprising Brianna with a beach proposal!


I was dating and had gone the online route.

It was great, I met a lot of really amazing women. But I was craving more of a connection. I was ready to do something completely different. There were moments where I thought “you are going to pay for a date, you are crazy!”. But clearly who I was choosing wasn’t working and I was ready to put it in someone else’s hands. The confidence in working with Dr. Frankie provided a level of trust that was the only option for me.”


Working with Dr. Frankie, there was a closeness

where I really felt that she understood my identity, my background, where I might be coming from and what I might be looking for. I felt she was someone who had my best interest at heart and really cared about me, which made the process feel unexpectedly natural.”

Here are the most Supportive and Customized ways
you and I can work together to find you love that lasts:

Single, Sexy, & Queer 5-Week Program

Curated Mini Dates

High End Matchmaking

Nina with girlfriend Andrea


Hi Dr. Frankie, in our last 30-min private

session for “Single, Sexy, & Queer” you mentioned to let you know if things went well with my dates. The particular dates that I talked about during the session didn’t work out. But your advice really gave me confidence and clarity to move forward, and I was able to meet someone after that, who is now my girlfriend 🙂

The whole experience with SSQ, your private sessions, and LGB community not only gave me the support to start a new relationship but also gave me the confidence to maintain and nurture it. I know you’re super busy but just wanted to let you know how much it made a difference in my life. Thank you so much, Dr. Frankie!

Best, Nina”

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