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Dr. Frankie Bashan

Hello!
In Case We Haven’t Met Yet,
Let Me Introduce Myself…

I’m Dr. Frankie, a clinical psychologist, relationship, dating, and sex coach, founder of the Little Gay Book Community for Professional Singles, and owner of the only High End Lesbian Matchmaking Agency exclusively for women in the country.

I’ve worked as a psychologist for over 20 years where I’ve personally helped hundreds of people with their sexual identity, heal their trauma, and save their relationships. I’ve also privately coached and trained countless lesbians on dating, sex, and relationships and have completed over 25,000 matchmaking introductions in the last decade- with one of the highest matchmaking success rates in the industry.

My expertise has been featured on TV, Radio and Print, nationwide, including a 2020 winter TEDx Talk, in addition to debuting as the Relationship Expert for Season 8 of MTV’s Historic “Are You The One,” Love Reality Series, featuring the first 100% sexually fluid cast on television.

I’ve dedicated my life to helping Lesbian and Bisexual Identifying Women find love. Nothing brings me more joy!

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It takes courage

to believe in deep, lasting love.
Congratulations for finding your way here!
I have worked tirelessly to create a space
for you to be loved as you are,
without apology or explanation.

Whether you are very career driven, or are just getting out of a long term relationship, or have been swept up with raising kids, or maybe you’ve come out later in life, it can feel overwhelming when you clear the decks and begin your search to find HER.

I am gifted with the ability to bring together beautiful hearts like yours, it is my life’s purpose.

Dr. Frankie Bashan

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Jill surprising Brianna with a beach proposal!

Jill

I was dating and had gone the online route.

It was great, I met a lot of really amazing women. But I was craving more of a connection. I was ready to do something completely different. There were moments where I thought “you are going to pay for a date, you are crazy!”. But clearly who I was choosing wasn’t working and I was ready to put it in someone else’s hands. The confidence in working with Dr. Frankie provided a level of trust that was the only option for me.”

Brianna

Working with Dr. Frankie, there was a closeness

where I really felt that she understood my identity, my background, where I might be coming from and what I might be looking for. I felt she was someone who had my best interest at heart and really cared about me, which made the process feel unexpectedly natural.”

Here are the most Supportive and Customized ways
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Nina with girlfriend Andrea

Nina

Hi Dr. Frankie, in our last 30-min private

session for “Single, Sexy, & Queer” you mentioned to let you know if things went well with my dates. The particular dates that I talked about during the session didn’t work out. But your advice really gave me confidence and clarity to move forward, and I was able to meet someone after that, who is now my girlfriend 🙂

The whole experience with SSQ, your private sessions, and LGB community not only gave me the support to start a new relationship but also gave me the confidence to maintain and nurture it. I know you’re super busy but just wanted to let you know how much it made a difference in my life. Thank you so much, Dr. Frankie!

Best, Nina”

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Latest Posts

28 November 2021

All About the Pelvic Floor: What It Is, and How It’s Impacting Your Sex Life, Self-Esteem, and More

  If you’re reading this…congratulations, you have a pelvic floor! Everyone, regardless of their sex or gender, has a pelvic floor. None of us would be able to go to the bathroom without one. Why should you care about the health of your pelvic floor? Because it can…

How EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) Can Help Your Relationship & Your Life

  When you get into an argument with your romantic partner, it can…

22 November 2021

Should I Give My Date Another Chance? Red Flags Vs. Orange Flags in Dating

  The dating process is meant to be fun. You’re meeting people, getting…

15 November 2021

It’s Healthy to Want Love—And Here’s Why

  It’s Healthy to Want Love—And Here’s Why To want love is part…

07 November 2021

Mixed Signals in Dating: “I’m Not Sure If She’s a Lesbian—How Should I Ask?”

  No matter what your sexual orientation is, “mixed signals” are one of…

01 November 2021

How Vulnerability Helps You in Dating

  Let’s talk about vulnerability in dating. This v-word scares a lot of…

24 October 2021

Two Crucial Lesbian Dating Secrets I’ve Learned from Matchmaking

  The real secrets to lesbian dating aren’t secrets at all. As a…

18 October 2021

How to Support Your Grieving Partner

  If you’re in a relationship for long enough, eventually one of you…

11 October 2021

How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

  You’ve met someone amazing, you’re crazy about them, and you can see…

03 October 2021

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