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I’m Dr. Frankie, a clinical psychologist, and relationship, dating, and sex coach. I’m the founder of the Little Gay Book Community and owner of the only High-End Matchmaking Agency exclusively for Lesbian/Bi/Trans singles in the country.

I’ve worked as a psychologist for over 20 years where I’ve personally helped hundreds of people with their sexual identity, heal their trauma, and save their relationships. I’ve also privately coached and trained countless lesbians on dating, sex, and relationships and have completed over 25,000 matchmaking introductions in the last decade- with one of the highest matchmaking success rates in the industry.

My expertise has been featured on TV, Radio and Print, nationwide, including a 2020 winter TEDx Talk, in addition to debuting as the Relationship Expert for Season 8 of MTV’s Historic “Are You The One,” Love Reality Series, featuring the first 100% sexually fluid cast on television.

I’ve dedicated my life to helping Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Identifying singles find love. Nothing brings me more joy!

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I was dating and had gone the online route.

It was great, I met a lot of really amazing women. But I was craving more of a connection. I was ready to do something completely different. There were moments where I thought “you are going to pay for a date, you are crazy!”. But clearly who I was choosing wasn’t working and I was ready to put it in someone else’s hands. The confidence in working with Dr. Frankie provided a level of trust that was the only option for me.”


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