Queer Love Is Nuanced, Powerful & Worth Doing Differently
Queer Love Is Nuanced, Powerful & Worth Doing Differently
Even the most amazing singles struggle. If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering, “What am I doing wrong? Why can’t I find the right match? Is love really in the cards for me?” – you’re not alone.
Dating today comes with very real challenges. Apps are exhausting, with endless swiping, ghosting, and mixed intentions that leave you drained. Old patterns often repeat, pulling you toward the same types of people and the same disappointing outcomes.
Confidence can take a hit, too – fear of rejection or simply not knowing what to say can make dating feel stressful instead of fun. And for queer singles, the dynamics of identity, expression, attraction partners, degrees of outness, and community culture add layers that mainstream dating advice rarely understands.
It’s no wonder so many smart, capable, and loving people feel stuck, frustrated, or like lasting love is always just out of reach…
You’re exhausted by dating apps, ghosting, and mismatched intentions
You’ve taken time out for work/family/health - and aren’t sure how to re-enter
You’ve labeled yourself ‘shy’, ‘too busy’, or ‘not good at flirting’
You keep things ‘comfortable’ but know you’re actually stuck
You want to feel attractive and confident - without being something you’re not
That quiet voice that says “I want more”? It’s not wrong. You deserve love that feels exciting, stable, and real. You have a rare opportunity to emerge from your cocoon, start fresh, and transform old habits that no longer serve you. But let’s be honest…
You’re exhausted by dating apps, ghosting, and mismatched intentions
You’ve taken time out for work/family/health - and aren’t sure how to re-enter
You’ve labeled yourself ‘shy’, ‘too busy’, or ‘not good at flirting’
You keep things ‘comfortable’ but know you’re actually stuck
You want to feel attractive and confident - without being something you’re not
That quiet voice that says “I want more”? It’s not wrong. You deserve love that feels exciting, stable, and real. You have a rare opportunity to emerge from your cocoon, start fresh, and transform old habits that no longer serve you. But let’s be honest…
Many of us avoided dating to stay safe or unjudged
Armor keeps us protected – but can block intimacy
Dynamics, outness, and lived experience shape connections
And how do you find a true partnership? Someone that is ready for a deep, lasting, soul-quenching relationship?
How do you take all that makes you special
and attract a really amazing person that
adores you and cherishes you for who you are?
Many of us avoided dating to stay safe or unjudged
Armor keeps us protected – but can block intimacy
Dynamics, outness, and lived experience shape connections
And how do you find a true partnership? Someone that is ready for a deep, lasting, soul-quenching relationship?
How do you take all that makes you special and attract a really amazing person that adores you and cherishes you for who you are?
Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?
Why do the connections I want not want me back?
Where do I even meet someone aligned with my life?
How do I know if I am the problem?
What would it feel like to actually trust myself in dating?
Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?
Why do the connections I want not want me back?
Where do I even meet someone aligned with my life?
How do I know if I am the problem?
What would it feel like to actually trust myself in dating?
These questions have real answers – and you don’t have to figure them out alone.
You need guidance. You need to be in the room with other queer singles, alongside Dr. Frankie and her team of LGBTQ+ matchmakers, relationship experts, and coaches who have spent their careers in this community. You need something concrete – tools you can use in your real dating life right away.
Because you’re not starting from scratch. You’ve lived, learned, and grown into someone with depth, heart, and resilience. Now it’s time to channel that into a love life that truly reflects who you are.
Hi, I’m Dr. Frankie Bashan – a clinical psychologist, board-certified sex therapist, and founder of Little Gay Book. For almost two decades, I’ve dedicated my career to helping LGBTQ+ singles create the kind of love that feels both exciting and enduring.
Through my matchmaking agency, I’ve facilitated over 25,000 introductions and guided thousands of singles into relationships that are not only lasting but deeply fulfilling. Along the way, I’ve had the privilege of being featured in Cosmopolitan, NPR, Glamour, Curve, and as the Relationship Expert on MTV’s groundbreaking season of ‘Are You The One?’
After decades of coaching and matchmaking – I’ve learned that real transformation only happens when singles feel celebrated for who they are, gain the confidence to show up authentically, and learn the skills to connect with others on a deeper level.
That’s why I created a new program designed to bring these tools, strategies, and insights to more people in a practical, supportive, and hands-on way.
You’ll be supported by my amazing team of LGBTQ+ matchmakers, relationship experts, coaches, and guest specialists – each bringing their own expertise to help you grow faster and feel fully supported.
Your 7-Week Celebration of Confidence, Connection & Love
Little Gay Book’s Queer Love Decoded program is a one-of-a-kind experience that bridges some of the best of what we do
in matchmaking, relationship coaching, and speed dating – designed exclusively for lesbian, bisexual, trans, and
queer-identifying singles who are ready for love.
This 7-week online group program is designed to celebrate how amazing you are while giving you the skills, structure, and support to actually find and attract the kind of person you want to share your life with – drawing from the most effective parts of our matchmaking and coaching work.
This is a live, guided experience where you actively practice new skills – with expert feedback, structured exercises, and other queer singles alongside you. Because real change in dating doesn’t come from more information. It comes from showing up differently – and practicing that in a space designed for it.
Your 7-Week Celebration of Confidence, Connection & Love
Little Gay Book’s Queer Love Decoded program is a one-of-a kind experience that bridges some of the best of what we do in matchmaking, relationship coaching, and speed dating – designed exclusively for lesbian, bisexual, trans, and queer identifying singles who are ready for love.
This 7-week online group program is designed to celebrate how amazing you are while giving you the skills, structure, and support to actually find and attract the kind of person you want to share your life with – drawing from the most effective parts of our matchmaking and coaching work.
This is a live, guided experience where you actively practice new skills – with expert feedback, structured exercises, and other queer singles alongside you. Because real change in dating doesn’t come from more information. It comes from showing up differently – and practicing that in a space designed for it.
Working with Denise, LGB, and Dr. Frankie has been truly life-changing. The Flirting workshop and the community’s tools helped me connect more deeply with myself, allowing me to build a meaningful and growing relationship with my partner. I’ve learned to approach challenges with curiosity, communicate my needs clearly, and embrace growth through change. I’m deeply grateful for the guidance and heart-centered work that continues to shape my life.
When our clients feel great about themselves mentally, physically, and emotionally, we see them take bolder actions in life and become a magnet for what they want.
Most dating advice tells you what to do – but doesn’t give you a space to actually practice it. This experience is designed differently.
Each week, you’ll learn something specific, apply it immediately, and get feedback in real time – so you’re not just thinking about change, you’re actively creating it.
Queer Love Decoded is like having clinical psychologists, board certified sex therapists, LGBTQ+ matchmakers, and relationship coaches as your support system. We want to celebrate you, show you how fantastic you are, and feel your best!
When our clients feel great about themselves mentally, physically, and emotionally, we see them take bolder actions in life and become a magnet for what they want.
Most dating advice tells you what to do – but doesn’t give you a space to actually practice it. This experience is designed differently.
Each week, you’ll learn something specific, apply it immediately, and get feedback in real time – so you’re not just thinking about change, you’re actively creating it.
Queer Love Decoded is like having clinical psychologists, board certified sex therapists, LGBTQ+ matchmakers, and relationship coaches as your support system. We want to celebrate you, show you how fantastic you are, and feel your best!
Weekly Zoom trainings led by LGBTQ+ matchmakers, coaches, and specialists (including one with Dr. Frankie!)
Connect with other participants, share experiences, and actively practice new skills in a safe environment.
Simple, structured exercises to help you apply what you learn in your real dating life each week.
Put everything together in a fun, low-pressure Online Skills Practice Speed Dating Party.
After a warm welcome to QLD, you’ll learn how to make online dating work for you. Dating apps are one tool in your dating toolbox, and when used intentionally, they can become one of your biggest assets, not only for meeting potential partners, but for practicing the skills of dating itself. You’ll learn how to create a profile that tells your story with personality and specificity, gives someone something real to connect with, and opens the door to conversation. Through interactive exercises, you’ll examine the snap judgments that happen while swiping, learn to separate true red flags from personal preferences, and practice approaching profiles with more curiosity. You’ll leave with a stronger profile and a new way of using the apps to practice connection, communication, discernment, and intentional dating.
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Matchmaker
Events Program Coordinator
After a warm welcome to QLD, you’ll learn how to make online dating work for you. Dating apps are one tool in your dating toolbox, and when used intentionally, they can become one of your biggest assets, not only for meeting potential partners, but for practicing the skills of dating itself. You’ll learn how to create a profile that tells your story with personality and specificity, gives someone something real to connect with, and opens the door to conversation. Through interactive exercises, you’ll examine the snap judgments that happen while swiping, learn to separate true red flags from personal preferences, and practice approaching profiles with more curiosity. You’ll leave with a stronger profile and a new way of using the apps to practice connection, communication, discernment, and intentional dating.
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Matchmaker
Events Program Coordinator
Dating isn’t just about what you say. It’s also about how you feel, communicate, and connect in the moment. This week, you’ll explore nervous system regulation, embodiment, and authentic relating in order to become more grounded and present with yourself and others. Through guided exercises and real-time practice, you’ll learn to notice what’s happening in your body, communicate more honestly, and stay connected to yourself while creating a deeper connection with someone else.
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Matchmaker
Matchmaker
Dating isn’t just about what you say. It’s also about how you feel, communicate, and connect in the moment. This week, you’ll explore nervous system regulation, embodiment, and authentic relating in order to become more grounded and present with yourself and others. Through guided exercises and real-time practice, you’ll learn to notice what’s happening in your body, communicate more honestly, and stay connected to yourself while creating a deeper connection with someone else.
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Matchmaker
Matchmaker
Flirting isn’t a script – it’s how you express yourself. In this interactive session, you’ll learn what actually creates attraction (and what shuts it down), then practice it in real time. You’ll work on body language, presence, and communication so you can initiate, respond, and read connection with more confidence.
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Matchmaker / Client Services Director
Flirting isn’t a script – it’s how you express yourself. In this interactive session, you’ll learn what actually creates attraction (and what shuts it down), then practice it in real time. You’ll work on body language, presence, and communication so you can initiate, respond, and read connection with more confidence.
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Matchmaker / Client Services Director
This is where things start to click. You’ll identify the patterns and inner narratives that have been shaping your dating life – often without you realizing it. Through guided exercises and conversation, you’ll learn how to shift those patterns, work with your inner critic, and develop a deeper sense of self-trust in connection.
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Founder / CEO / Principal Matchmaker
This is where things start to click. You’ll identify the patterns and inner narratives that have been shaping your dating life – often without you realizing it. Through guided exercises and conversation, you’ll learn how to shift those patterns, work with your inner critic, and develop a deeper sense of self-trust in connection.
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Founder / CEO / Principal Matchmaker
Time to put it all together! You’ll step into a low-pressure, invite-only speed dating experience with fellow participants and selected singles from our network. Designed for practice, not performance – this session will let you use your new skills in real time, build momentum, and leave with a clearer sense of how you want to move forward.
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Time to put it all together! You’ll step into a low-pressure, invite-only speed dating experience with fellow participants and selected singles from our network. Designed for practice, not performance – this session will let you use your new skills in real time, build momentum, and leave with a clearer sense of how you want to move forward.
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Sign up by September 20 and you’ll get an exclusive bonus session with Dr. Frankie. Bring your biggest dating, relationship, or connection questions and get her perspective in real time during this interactive group Q&A. You’ll have the chance to ask questions, hear practical advice, and learn from the real-life dating situations other QLD participants bring to the conversation.
This bonus group session is exclusively for participants who enroll by September 20.
hosted by
Founder / CEO / Principal Matchmaker
Sign up by September 20 and you’ll get an exclusive bonus session with Dr. Frankie. Bring your biggest dating, relationship, or connection questions and get her perspective in real time during this interactive group Q&A. You’ll have the chance to ask questions, hear practical advice, and learn from the real-life dating situations other QLD participants bring to the conversation.
This bonus group session is exclusively for participants who enroll by September 20.
hosted by
Founder / CEO / Principal Matchmaker
You’ve spent the past weeks learning, practicing, experimenting, and seeing yourself and dating a little differently. Now it’s time to step back and take it all in. We’ll debrief what happened during the program, share the moments that surprised us, celebrate the wins, and dish about the dating adventures along the way. Then we’ll look forward, because finishing QLD isn’t the finish line. It’s a new starting point. You’ll reflect on what has changed, what you want to carry forward, and what you want to do next, while reconnecting with the people who shared the experience with you.
Come for the conversation, stay for the community, and leave with a clearer sense of where you’re headed next.
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Events Program Coordinator
You’ve spent the past weeks learning, practicing, experimenting, and seeing yourself and dating a little differently. Now it’s time to step back and take it all in. We’ll debrief what happened during the program, share the moments that surprised us, celebrate the wins, and dish about the dating adventures along the way. Then we’ll look forward, because finishing QLD isn’t the finish line. It’s a new starting point. You’ll reflect on what has changed, what you want to carry forward, and what you want to do next, while reconnecting with the people who shared the experience with you.
Come for the conversation, stay for the community, and leave with a clearer sense of where you’re headed next.
hosted by
Events Program Coordinator
This program is for LBTQ+ singles who are serious about creating a love life that feels aligned, confident, and full of joy. If you’re ready to show up authentically, learn new skills, and put yourself out there in meaningful ways, we encourage you to apply.
You’re tired of apps and want something more intentional
You’re ready to feel sexy, confident, and magnetic again
You’re open to coaching, feedback, and growth
You want a safe, supportive queer community to practice with
You’re not open to meaningful change or feedback
You’re deeply stuck in the past and not yet open to moving forward
You want a quick fix without doing the inner (and outer) work
You aren’t willing to show up for yourself and others in the group
This program is for LBTQ+ singles who are serious about creating a love life that feels aligned, confident, and full of joy. If you’re ready to show up authentically, learn new skills, and put yourself out there in meaningful ways, we encourage you to apply.
You’re tired of apps and want something more intentional
You’re ready to feel sexy, confident, and magnetic again
You’re open to coaching, feedback, and growth
You want a safe, supportive queer community to practice with
You’re not open to meaningful change or feedback
You’re deeply stuck in the past and not yet open to moving forward
You want a quick fix without doing the inner (and outer) work
You aren’t willing to show up for yourself and others in the group
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7 weeks of expert-led training with LGBTQ+ matchmakers and coaches
Transformational experiences including a live session with Dr. Frankie
Confidence and connection skill-building through workshops and training
Personal presence upgrades with styling guidance and embodiment practices
Community connection through breakout sessions and guided assignments
An Online Skills Practice Speed Dating Party to apply everything you’ve learned
7 weeks of expert-led training with LGBTQ+ matchmakers and coaches
Transformational experiences including a live session with Dr. Frankie
Confidence and connection skill-building through workshops and training
Personal presence upgrades with styling guidance and embodiment practices
Community connection through breakout sessions and guided assignments
An Online Skills Practice Speed Dating Party to apply everything you’ve learned
Queer Love Decoded is a focused, high-impact experience designed to help you shift how you show up in dating – so you can build confidence, understand your patterns, and create more meaningful, aligned connections.
This program brings together expert guidance, real-time practice, and a supportive queer community into one structured environment – at a price that’s accessible.
You’ve already accomplished so much in your life. Isn’t it time you brought the same clarity, intention, and brilliance to your love life? The Queer Love Decoded program gives you the tools, support, and confidence to step boldly into the love you deserve.
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