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We find your perfect match

bespoke LBTQ+ matchmaking

Helping LBTQ+ & Non-Binary People Find Genuine Relationships

bespoke LBTQ+ matchmaking

Helping LBTQ+ & Non-Binary People Find Genuine Relationships

At Little Gay Book, matchmaking isn’t a platform, a list of faces you swipe past, or an algorithm that guesses for you. It’s a highly personalized process – built on conversation, emotional insight, and nearly 20 years of LGBTQ+ matchmaking expertise.

We get to know you in a way apps never could – your heart, your history, your patterns, your hopes. From there, every introduction is intentional, every match thoughtfully selected, and every step designed to move you closer to lasting love.

A More Intentional Way To Find Love

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What You Can Expect From Matchmaking

  • Every introduction is chosen by an expert matchmaker who understands your values, identity, and long-term goals.
  • Each match is vetted for align-ment in lifestyle, communication style, emotional readiness, and relationship vision.
  • Your matchmaker searches in one of the largest, most diverse LGBTQ+ singles directories in the country, built over 17+ years.
  • You receive tailored assessments, compatibility reviews, and a roadmap designed specifically to help you grow.
  • From date planning to post-date debriefs, you’re supported with insight, coaching, and clarity building conversations.
  • Our work helps you understand your patterns and step into dating with confidence, calm, and clarity.

how does it work?

1

Start with a private profile

Everyone starts with a short profile that places you in our private internal directory – a confidential space our matchmakers use behind the scenes. It’s never public, never searchable, and never something you browse. It simply helps us get to know you.

2

Tell us what you’re looking for

Eligible singles are invited to complete a more detailed profile and talk to us about their history, their patterns, and what they’re looking for. This is where we start to understand your heart – and whether our premier matchmaking program is the right next step.

3

Join our matchmaking program

We only move forward with clients we genuinely believe we can match well. If it’s a fit, you’ll enter a structured, supportive process that includes a personal assessment, a compatibility review, and a bespoke plan to find lasting love.

4

Meet matches chosen just for you

Once you’re in the program, your matchmaker hand-selects each introduction with intention based on values, lifestyle, and long-term alignment. We arrange the dates and debrief with you afterward to build clarity, confidence, and momentum.

Find Your Special Someone With Matchmaking

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relationship coaching tailored for you

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Whichever option you choose, your result will be an intentional journey that helps you move beyond frustration – and toward the relationship you’ve always envisioned.

meet your principal matchmaker

Dr. Frankie Bashan

Finding love should feel exciting, not exhausting – but modern dating rarely makes it easy. Swiping, ghosting, and surface-level connections can leave even the most grounded people feeling discouraged or unsure of what to do next.

I’m Dr. Frankie, Founder and Principal Matchmaker at Little Gay Book. As a clinical psychologist, board-certified sex therapist, and LGBTQ+ matchmaking expert with nearly two decades of experience, including extensive experience in lesbian matchmaking, I’ve helped thousands of singles move past unhelpful patterns and into relationships that feel genuine, joyful, and lasting.

Our bespoke matchmaking program is the most personal and transformative way we work with clients – a human-led, deeply attuned process designed to support you, champion you, and guide you toward the kind of love that truly fits.

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Real People. Real Love.

Hear from our happy clients

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brianna & jill

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I was dating and had gone the online route. It was great, I met a lot of really amazing women. But I was craving more of a connection. I was ready to do something completely differ- ent. There were moments where I thought “you are going to pay for a date, you are crazy!”. But clearly who I was choosing wasn’t working and I was ready to put it in some-one else’s hands. The confidence in working with Dr. Frankie provided a level of trust that was the only option for me.

jill

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Working with Dr. Frankie, there was a closeness where I really felt that she understood my identity, my background, where I might be coming from, and what I might be looking for. I felt she was someone who had my best interests at heart and really cared about me, which made the process feel unexpectedly natural

brianna

Supportive, Customized Ways To Help You Find Lasting Love

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introducing: experience

nina & charli

"

Hi Dr. Frankie, in our last 30-min private session for “Single, Sexy, & Queer” you mentioned to let you know if things went well with my dates. The particular dates that I talked about during the session didn’t work out. But your advice really gave me confidence and clarity to move forward, and I was able to meet someone after that, who is now my girlfriend

The whole experience with SSQ, your private sessions, and LGB community not only gave me the support to start a new relationship but also gave me the confidence to maintain and nurture it. I know you’re super busy but just wanted to let you know how much it made a difference in my life. Thank you so much, Dr. Frankie!”

nina

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