Ronnie from New York asks, “Is there a tactful way to ask a stranger if she’s a lesbian?” Is it rude to ask? Is there a respectful, but deliberate question I could ask her without offending her?”
Such a great question! And my recommendation?
No, do not just come out and ask someone if they are a lesbian.
I would first just strike up a conversation with her. Ask her questions, be interested in what she has to say and try to get a sense on your own, if she is responding to you [watch the video for the rest of my advice]