Sometimes it can be tough feeling like a hottie when no one is seeing you naked! Why spend all that time and energy each day, making yourself look good, if you have no partner to see you?
Because you’re worth feeling sexy, regardless of whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship.
What It Means to Be “Sexy”
Everyone’s definition of “sexy” is subjective. But overall, there’s something universally appealing about having a great attitude and taking great care of yourself. The feeling of sexiness comes when you’re thoroughly enjoying your life, feeling confident in your own skin, doing things that light you up, and yes—doing things to take care of yourself.
Sexiness also shows up in the form of having good boundaries, believing in your own worth, and valuing and respecting your own time. (Think of the opposite: a woman who has poor boundaries, doesn’t believe she’s worth anything, and doesn’t respect her own time. That’s not sexy!)
Complaining about everything that’s going wrong in your life? Not sexy.
Doing something to make your world better, brighter, and more awesome each day? Sexy.
Tolerating unhealthy habits in you, that you know you need to change? Not sexy.
Taking the initiative to work out, eat better, or engage in more self-care? Sexy.
Feeling sexy has more to do with how you view yourself and how you’re treating yourself, than in wearing certain clothing or perfume. (Although those things can help—if you’re also focused on taking care of yourself in deeper ways.)
6 Tips for Feeling Sexy — Even if You’re Single
Here are some ways to start feeling sexy about yourself…even if you’re single. You might not be expecting these, so brace yourself!
1. Spend Time With Yourself Each Morning in Reflection
What? For real? Yes. There’s something powerful (and sexy) about spending time with yourself in the morning, reflecting on what kind of day you had yesterday—and what kind of day you’d like to have today. Getting to know yourself and building your own character is sexy.
A simple “morning process” can include things like self-reflection, journaling, writing down your goals for the day, writing down things you appreciate, reading a book and learning something new, or thinking about how you can take greater responsibility for some area in your life that’s bothering you.
You can also use this morning time to get clear on what kind of relationship or partner you want to draw in. Whatever you desire, make sure you’re giving that to yourself, first and foremost. Do you want love? Kindness? Attention? Appreciation? Good communication? Fun dates? Make sure you’re giving those things to yourself first.
2. Try a New Hobby or Physical Activity
Go on a bike ride. Buy a mini trampoline and start jumping. Sign up to online dance classes and get your groove on! Try barre, pilates, or yoga. Sign up to a new gym. Take that tubing trip down the river.
If you can’t find a place to do this in person, there are plenty of online classes you can try. If you’re near nature, try taking a daily walk.
Doing physical activity unleashes endorphins, which make you feel good! (That’s sexy.) Trying a new activity that looks appealing to you—but also makes you a little nervous—is a great way to face your fears (also sexy).
3. Do Something You’ve Always Wanted to Do
Write a list of 10 things you’ve been wanting to do for months…or maybe even years. Pick ONE thing on the list and challenge yourself to do it today, or start working towards it! Then work your way through the list.
Excitement, creativity, and energy get released when you take action on something you truly want to do—especially something you’ve been procrastinating on. And guess what? Those qualities—excitement, creativity, and energy—are sexier than their opposites (enthusiastic-ness, dullness, and blah-ness).
When you’re busy taking action to create the life you want, that’s often when the perfect partner will show up in your life, because you were too focused on enjoying your life to even think about how single you were! You guessed it—enjoying your life is sexy.
4. Take a Shower, Get Dressed, and Put on Your Makeup in the Morning!
This one is for anyone who works at home! Being single, it can be easy to skip “the basics” and just lounge around all day—or work in your pajamas. (Or save your shower till the end of the day.) But be honest—does that make you feel sexy?
Take the time and energy to engage in a basic self-care ritual early in the morning (or day), so that can declare to the world: “I’m worth looking and feeling good—even if there’s no partner seeing me—because I see me.”
Trust me, this will make a huge difference in your energy and attitude. Plus, you’ll be ready for any spur-of-the-moment Zoom calls or quick trips you need to make somewhere—you’ll already look and feel good!
5. Be Relentless About Having Your Needs Met
