Though the numbers vary according to who you ask, bisexuals seem to make up approximately half the population of lesbians and bisexual women, according to a metastudy by the Williams Institute. Yet bisexual people are often questioned, invalidated, and erased. They might hear that everyone is bisexual. They might hear that no one is. They might hear that they’re not
If you’re a lesbian, bisexual, or queer, you may already know how cis heterosexual ideas of how sexuality and gender work.
But even when you have a more nuanced view of sexuality, some thinking around gender can be hard to grasp. For folks with they/them pronouns, their identity is as clear to them as yours is to you – but if
Butch is an intentional queer masculinity that can be expressed in hundreds of ways. Often, though not always, butch style is characterized by an attention to detail and incorporation of some of the more classic notes from menswear – as Qwear puts it, “Tomboy style is more menswear-inspired whereas butch style is just menswear.” There are also short- and long-haired
There are as many ways to construct and live a femme identity as there are femmes. Some femmes wear long hair, others shave their heads, and still others do both. Some wear heels every time they leave the house and others wear sneakers. Some are CEOs and some are welders and some work in pink-collar fields. Some are "girly" and
The longer the pandemic goes on, the more normal having dates online becomes. But especially when many of us are sitting down to a screen for most of the day, sitting down to that same screen for a date just doesn’t have the same magic as getting dressed up and heading out to one of your favorite spots. While getting
Your Schedules Play Well Together
Sometimes whether or not a relationship even gets as far as a first date comes down to scheduling and flexibility. If you both have rigid jobs with opposing hours, you might not even be able to make a first date, let alone build a life together. In more established partnerships, you may have the foundation to
If you’ve never tried it before, or never had a positive experience with it, anal sex can be intimidating. For some of us, the idea of the butt as a source of sexual pleasure and connection feels taboo. For others, it’s something we associate with gay men, not queer women. For still others, it’s all about the poop, and specifically
Is there a lesbian top shortage? A Lesbian Top prefers to take a more “active” role in sex, often leading the action rather than receiving it. Once you find a lesbian top, how do you date her? Read on to find out
Has spending time with your wife become tense and anything but pleasant?
When you see happy couples together, does pain sears through you as you realize that you and your wife used to be just like them? And now… well, now you are anything but that. And if someone were to glance over at the two of you, you know what
We have all made one. You know what I am talking about. THE LIST.
The one that we’ve made when we are single and looking for our next relationship. The one that has every quality and characteristic of our ideal mate. Perhaps if you are one of those few who actually haven’t made one, you have at least imagined what your
So what do I actually mean by “healthy”, anyway?
I have a feeling that most people reading this automatically got an image popping up in their mind of some fit body or had thoughts about exercise. Well, ok. That could be related to physical health. But I am going over and beyond that when I refer to healthy.
Someone could be
Women are conditioned to believe our life partner will organically fall into our laps with little effort on our part. Any sort of “plan” to her feels contrived, transactional and unromantic. We passively leave the biggest part of our happiness to chance. THERE IS a better way.