A lot of us function on relationship autopilot. But building a connection with a partner isn't something you set and forget - it's something you do over and over throughout your time together. Healthy relationships don't involve taking someone for granted. Ever. Here's how to get someone interested in you, and if you have a relationship together, how to keep her
Dear Dr. Frankie,
My girlfriend and I have been together for two years. Last year, she went to grad school abroad, and the other day she called with a request: Can she have the freedom to sleep with other women even though she doesn't want to have a relationship with them?
Honestly, I hate this idea and it makes me distrust whatever
There are as many different ways to have relationships as there are people, and sometimes it can be hard to figure out what someone is talking about. Solo poly with two partners? In a closed throuple? What about an open relationship? Mostly monogamous? Do people still swing? What does it all mean?
While there are a ton of different relationship styles,
Bad things happen in life sometimes. We can’t control that, but we can control how we deal with them. If you constantly respond by feeling like everyone or the universe is out to get you, by trying to not feel anything at all, or by feeling like you only have other people to blame, you might be playing the victim.
Most of us don’t grow up learning to think of rejection as a good thing. We often internalize the opposite: the idea that rejection is bad, that it’s a personal indictment of us and everything about us, that we should try to avoid it at all costs, and that if we can’t, we’ve somehow failed. In this understanding, when we
This might sound familiar: you’ve been on a few dates with someone and at first, things seemed promising, but as you round the corner of date number four you’re realizing that you just don’t have the connection you want with her and don’t, for whatever reason, really want to try to build one. So as your date this Friday approaches,
Our lives are tied to our screens, which means that, no matter how much you hate it, at least part of dating is, too. Whether in our current pandemic dystopia, in a long-distance relationship, or in a same-city courtship or cohabitation, screens are an invaluable tool for connection – as long as you use them right. The below tips will
Connecting mostly over video calls – whether for meetings, group watches, Facetime birthday parties, or Zoom dates – is here to stay, at least for the foreseeable future. But as many of us are finding out, not all video dates are created equal. It’s hard enough to get a sense of someone on an in-person date, and between patchy Wi-Fi,
The longer the pandemic goes on, the more normal having dates online becomes. But especially when many of us are sitting down to a screen for most of the day, sitting down to that same screen for a date just doesn’t have the same magic as getting dressed up and heading out to one of your favorite spots. While getting
Your Schedules Play Well Together
Sometimes whether or not a relationship even gets as far as a first date comes down to scheduling and flexibility. If you both have rigid jobs with opposing hours, you might not even be able to make a first date, let alone build a life together. In more established partnerships, you may have the foundation to
Sometimes you know just what to say and just when to send it. But sometimes texting looks like staring at a blinking cursor trying to remember what words even are. Here’s how to text no matter where you are in your relationship.
When You’re Brand New Matches
Congratulations on your new match! It can feel intimidating to talk to someone
I was thinking about the movie the Runaway Bride the other day. For those of you who have no idea about what movie that is, here’s a brief re-cap: Julia Roberts plays a character who basically gets engaged over and over again, only to never actually say “I do”. She freaks out right before it gets to that point, and
We have all made one. You know what I am talking about. THE LIST.
The one that we’ve made when we are single and looking for our next relationship. The one that has every quality and characteristic of our ideal mate. Perhaps if you are one of those few who actually haven’t made one, you have at least imagined what your