Speed Dating Events

For Lesbian/Bi/Trans Singles and
Poly, Kinky, and Queer People of all types

If you’re frustrated with dating apps and are looking to meet real people in real-time, then Speed Dating Events with Little Gay Book are for you! In this era of passive online dating and detached texting, we get you face-to-face with real people in real-time for real conversations, real connections, and real 2nd dates.

A laugh. A glance. A shiver of possibility runs down your spine. A lot can happen in five minutes. When you attend a Speed Dating Event with Little Gay Book, you’ll discover just how much potential five minutes can hold.

Here’s How
Speed Dating Works:

Whether you meet up with us at an In-Person event or join us in our Zoom Room for one of our online events you’ll need a smartphone to share what type of matches you’re interested in and for leaving your feedback. Our simple smartphone technology allows us to tailor the event to the age and “type” of person you’d like to meet. You tell us where your preferred date lies on the masculine-feminine spectrum, along with their age range. The algorithm determines the best matches possible, allowing for a more tailored experience than random, public speed dating.

For Online Speed Dating you’ll meet your matches in intimate break-out rooms, so you’ll need a separate device with the Zoom app. In-Person events are hosted at our favorite neighborhood bars and restaurants.

After getting to know each other during five-minute rounds you’ll use our matching technology to privately share whether you think they’re second date material, a new friend, or a business connection. The next day you’ll receive the contact info of anyone you matched with.

Everyone who attends is looking to connect, and there’s the potential for lots of fun, great conversations, date and friend matches. Come check one out!

Lesbian/Bi/Trans Speed Dating events are open to all lesbian, bisexual, nonbinary, and genderqueer folks. They are a trans-welcoming space, and intolerance will not be permitted. No cis-men, please.

Our Poly, Kinky, and Queer events are open to people of all genders and sexualities.


June 8 2023, 4pm PT

50’s+ Lesbian/Bi/Trans Online Speed Dating

June 12 2023, 6pm PT

Oakland In Person Lesbian/Bi/Trans Speed Dating

June 15 2023, 4pm PT

40’s-50’s Lesbian/Bi/Trans Online Speed Dating

June 17 2023, 5:30pm PT

Los Angeles In Person Lesbian/Bi/Trans Speed Dating

June 22 2023, 4pm PT

30’s-40’s Lesbian/Bi/Trans Online Speed Dating

June 29 2023, 4pm PT

20’s-30’s Lesbian/Bi/Trans Online Speed Dating

July 5 2023, 4pm PT

Femme seeking Femme Lesbian/Bi/Trans Queer Online Speed Dating

July 6 2023, 4pm PT

Femme seeking
Butch Lesbian/Bi/Trans Queer Online
Speed Dating

July 12 2023, 4pm PT

BIPOC Lesbian/Bi/Trans Queer Online Speed Dating

July 13 2023, 4pm PT

Trans Online Speed Dating

July 19 2023, 4pm PT

Career/Executive Minded Lesbian/Bi/Trans Queer Online Speed Dating

July 20 2023, 4pm PT

Came Out Later
In Life
Lesbian/Bi/Trans Queer Online
Speed Dating

July 26 2023, 4pm PT

Young Professionals Lesbian/Bi/Trans Queer Online Speed Dating

July 27 2023, 4pm PT

All Singles Lesbian/Bi/Trans Queer Online Speed Dating

Curious about what it’s like?

Here’s what people are saying about their experience


I’ve attended two single mingles and I’m really grateful to the team for organizing these! I dislike dating apps, and this is a nice change of pace! Not only is this a great opportunity to meet attractive queer women, but I’ve met some really dope potential friends that I wouldn’t have otherwise. It is organized in such a way that the experience is fun and not full of pressure. Also, everyone I’ve met on the LGB team is incredibly nice and welcoming! I am definitely a fan and look forward to attending more events soon!

Still feeling a little uncertain?

Here are answers to our most frequently asked questions:

What is a Little Gay Book Speed Dating event?

Our trained Little Gay Book Hosts facilitate fun-filled events focused on people meeting and getting to know each other, making real connections, and leading to meaningful relationships.  During our events, you will meet up to 10 like-minded individuals during 5-minute dates.

How Does the Matching Algorithm Work?

Prior to the event, we will send you a link to your confidential speed dating profile.  In your profile, you will be asked to provide 2 short answers: Where you fall on the masculine/feminine expression spectrum and where your preferred date falls on the same spectrum.  Add the preferred age range and you’re all set.  The matching algorithm is designed to match your preferences as best it can, given who is in attendance and their selected preferences.

How Do I Leave Feedback At The End of Each Five Minute Date?

At the end of each date, you’ll have access to your feedback screen. 

Your feedback options include friendship, 2nd date, business, or no connection.  You are able to select multiple options, in fact, we recommend it, especially if you like the person.  If you and your date indicate the same feedback on at least one level you are a match and will receive one another’s contact information. 

For example:

  • If you go on a date and select “friend” and they also select “friend,” you will match as friends and receive one another’s contact information. 
  • If you only select “date” and they only select “friend” unfortunately it is not a match.
  • If you select “friend” + “date” but they only select “friend” you are still a match because you both indicated you’d like to be friends.

Who attends your events? Will I find people my age?

We have attendees of all ages from all across the US and beyond.  Our matching algorithm will pair you with attendees as close in age as possible based on who is in attendance. 

Interested in meeting someone in a certain age range?  Check out one of our age-specific events.

What Should I Talk About On My 5-Minute Date?

  1. Think about what you’d want to know about someone before going on a date with them.
  2. Avoid the “What do you do for work?” in favor of “What do you do for fun?”
  3. Refrain from talking about Exes. They are the past and this is about the future.
  4. If you like them, try to stand out and differentiate yourself from the others in a positive way. Tasteful humor and a light-hearted demeanor go a long way.

Here’s what people experience at our
In-Person Speed Dating Events:

What’s next?

Join one of the events above to get started having real conversations, real connections, and real second dates.

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