People come in and out of your life, and some people make a memorable and lasting impression on you.

Dr. Frankie or Hitch is one of those people who will make a big difference in your life. Hitch has been my dating coach for over four months now. I am a shy, overachieving nerd who has trouble setting boundaries and of course been looking for love in the wrong places. Hitch has made a positive impact on my life by giving me a makeover (yes, I look cooler), increased my confidence, balancing my work and personal life and of course gives me advice on how to approach the girls. I am most proud to say that Hitch has taught me about life and friendship because I know that Hitch is also my friend.

This was a needed social activity during the pandemic.

Prior to signing up, I was not making dating a priority and not knowing how to change this. I had stopped trying to look good. SSQ was empowering! The community was welcoming and friendly! I was shocked at how much I enjoyed the skill of practicing party for many reasons. There were practical tips that eased my resistance to recognizing my power to feel attractive again and enjoy being thoughtful about how I present myself. The most important part was that I grew fond of everyone in the program. I feel better about myself and have new friends!

Is there something terribly wrong with me?

After failures with online dating, the negative self-talk was building to a point where I was questioning my ability to attract women. I was struggling with early red flags to look out for and wanted to know where to meet people; what specific things to look for in finding long term, stable relationships and how to approach online dating. I longed for a sense of community in being able to connect with other like-minded, successful women that were also looking for the same things that I was. This program totally refreshed my perspective on dating. The section on “is it hormones or true love” was a powerful message in the training. I really enjoyed the breakout group time and how each week built up our confidence. I’m much more self-aware of my body language when out and about. Practice sparking conversations is now a focus of mine. I’m also more strategic in where to meet women as well. Thank you Dr. Frankie for putting your heart and soul into facilitating this powerful course, it was wonderful, fulfilling, and was managed meticulously. The quality and quantity of the takeaways was more than I could have ever imagined, all being delivered with a practical yet caring touch. Bringing women together from all over the country via an online platform is no easy feat, but it was conducted effortlessly. You will be invited to my wedding soon enough!

I had done a lot of personal work so I wasn't sure this was for me.

I also felt comfortable with my makeup and attire, and had worked with a private therapist, so I was hesitant to sign up. BUT, I wanted to meet quality women, and yet had proclaimed myself “anti-social,” saying that I value my time alone and using that as an excuse to not invest in myself or put myself out there to meet women. I decided, if I was going to do this, then I would be “all in,” and actually take action and see what happens. Positive results! I loved Dr. Frankie’s openness and honesty providing insight and tips. I also loved interacting with small groups. This surprised me as I’m not a group zoom person! I also loved the changes I made to skincare and clothing based on just this program! I have more confidence in myself overall. My close straight friend is also looking to date & she signed up for a high-end dating site, costing $25,000 for 15 months – and that’s the starting cost. I know that she is not getting nearly as much coaching, practical tips, insights, analysis as Dr. Frankie offered. I shared some things with her and she was very impressed! Thank you Dr. Frankie for having this amazing program, for offering insight, being real, and over delivering!

I was missing out on so many opportunities to meet potential matches due to my fear of speaking to them.

SSQ was a safe place for women to come together to learn how to put our best foot forward when seeking a healthy relationship. The weekly content and home assignments provided a wealth of knowledge. It’s not often you get the opportunity to work with someone like Dr. Frankie and I made sure I took a ton of notes. The process was very straightforward in a welcoming environment. The topics were absolutely amazing and I loved the breakout session exercises. I feel much more confident to talk to women. I took Dr. Frankie’s advice and complimented a woman at Starbucks on my way to work. She was on her phone checking her Facebook page and looked surprised that I spoke to her but she was really appreciative. We bumped into each other the next day at Starbucks and she waved! I am using this pandemic to continue to work on myself – I learned so much about myself in just 5 weeks and I plan to continue building on the foundation. You have to be an active participant in changing your life!

I am making connections and new friendships even coming out of COVID

I was lacking a sense of growing community and wondering how to find like-minded LGBTQI+ people. In participating in Single, Sexy, & Queer, I found it so much more enjoyable to meet new women in a learning environment because we were primarily peers and having a shared journey through the weekly topics. We had a chance to start getting to know each other without any premature focus on attraction. I really appreciated that! I loved being able to learn and grow with a group of lesbian women–and feeling part of the group! I appreciated getting to know everyone either through the breakouts or just seeing everyone each week.

It became more comfortable and more fun with each session. My engagement increased throughout the program by doing each session’s homework and also through my one-on-one with Dr. Frankie. My social life feels more expanded. Thank you Dr. Frankie for taking such a respectful, intelligent, high-quality approach to the work you do, to the process of helping women meet each other, and to the work of creating a community and network of professional LGBTQIA+ women.

I thought I was flirting, but I learned that I was not!

I get very discouraged with any kind of rejection and I had a sense that there were things I was doing or not doing to attract women, which is why I signed up for Single, Sexy, & Queer. I loved the instant feeling of community and sharing experiences with the other women in SSQ. Realizing that my experiences were not unique really helped. There was a good combination of feeling safe while I was stepping out of some comfort zones. I’ve had total frustration with online dating. During the program, I learned I was not letting people know I was interested. I got concrete tools that have already changed how I am approaching dating which feels great. It really made a clear, quantifiable difference in my romantic life. Thank you Dr. Frankie for your straightforward approach to things. It felt really easy to get advice and direction from you, without a whiff of judgment. It was also obvious how much you enjoy what you do which was lovely to be around. Thanks for using all your skills and smarts to bring more love into the world 🙂

I am a semi-recently out bisexual woman.

At times I’ve felt like I didn’t belong in the Queer Community. In joining Single, Sexy, and Queer, I didn’t feel alone. Doing the exercises made me realize how often I avoid certain situations, interactions, and events and yet remained bewildered that I wasn’t meeting people I could connect with. I loved that I got to break out in groups with other women to talk about our exercises, the struggles we had with them, and the successes. The exercises and talking about our experiences with them pushed the accountability on me to make sure I was participating. If I hadn’t joined SSQ, I would probably be passively moving through life and the pandemic, casually dipping into dating apps and hoping that my perfect person would jump at my screen and we’d go riding off into the socially distanced sunset together. I now look at dating and meeting potential partners in a completely different lens. Instead of casually looking through dating apps and seeing who pops up, I go in with intention and a very specific mindset. Thank you Dr. Frankie for pushing me to not only look at myself, but to make me think about what is really important in my life and what I want in a partner. It was so much fun! I still can’t believe how much I learned and how different I feel after only a month-long program.

As Jane and I are coming up on our second year anniversary – I wanted to take the time to thank you once again

For all the help you gave me during the time I was trying to come to grips with a fading relationship and preparing for a new journey of self-discovery. The work of really diving into my own strengths, weaknesses as well as my desires for partner characteristics prepared me for a wonderful life with my wife of two years. Being vulnerable enough to take a look at my own behavior(s) and how it impacts my relationships was a crucial element in helping me to find my true life partner. Thank you once again for your insights, provocative questions, as well as your kind, wise words.