Love can’t
be locked
down. Your future partner
is waiting for you.

When Was the Last
Great Love of Your Life?

This pandemic has hit single people hard.

Love life situations can be challenging to navigate even in the BEST of times.
Now with many of us isolated in our homes, in-person dates are nearly impossible.
Although some areas across the country are starting to reopen, many people are not rushing out.

They are being cautious and waiting to see what happens with all that’s at stake.
Let’s face it, even before all of this, just FINDING a woman you have a spark and mutual attraction with could be tough!

Maybe in the swirl of intense emotions you’ve been tempted to rekindle with an ex, just to be disappointed with circular fighting (yet again).

In case we haven’t met,
let me introduce myself.
I’m Dr. Frankie, a psychologist, relationship coach and the owner of the only Lesbian Matchmaking Agency exclusively for women in the country.

With over 25,000 introductions over the last 10 years, I have one of the highest matchmaking success rates in the industry.

My work has been featured on TV, Radio and Print, nationwide.

Since my debut as the Relationship Expert on MTV’s “Are You The One,” I’ve been getting a lot of inquiries about my services.

I’ve been speaking with a lot of women about how to cope with the realities of confusion around dating that have completely changed on us overnight.

Featured expert on
Cosmopolitan, NPR, Curve Magazine, MTV, Glamour

And I’m here to bring you a silver lining to the doom and gloom.

I’m here to help you make use of these uncertain times so you can tap into the best parts of yourself and unleash your passion, so you’ll know EXACTLY how to find and attract your match when the time is right.

Dr. Frankie Bashan

First, let things that might be dimming your light:

  • Hiding behind an important career that keeps you “too busy” to date so you can avoid putting your heart on the line
  • Labeling yourself as “shy” so you don’t have to talk to anyone new
  • Letting your maintenance go so you don’t have to invest in your appearance (okay – this is all of us right now –but maybe this was your pre-pandemic mode anyway!)
  • Holding on to your “perfectionist” ways so you don’t have to take big risks

So let’s face it, you could coast like this just fine…cozy and “comfortable” for years.
But there’s a little voice inside of you that’s trying to tell you:

“Staying ‘comfortable’ is actually making me really unhappy.”

If you don’t pay attention to that voice, you can go on this way for a really long time. Until, one day, being “comfortable” suddenly becomes UNBEARABLE.

COVID19 Has Been Forcing Many To Go Inside (physically and emotionally)

You have a rare opportunity to cocoon, change and transform old habits that no longer serve you.

But let’s be honest:

You can’t just decide to change your life, snap your fingers and make it happen. You need the practical tools and support to create that change, plus the confidence to put it into action.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned after over a decade of helping women across the country find their perfect match, it’s that there are MANY of amazing single lesbian, queer, trans and bisexual women that are looking for love right now, in this very moment, holed up in their homes, all around the world.

There are so many layers to the exact rare blend of qualities that spark that special kind of chemistry which leads to long term relationships. You’ve known this all of your life… The number 1 factor, for chemistry, across the board, starts with YOU.

It’s Your Passion

That’s the very first binding ingredient to spark chemistry with anyone you choose. That is the foundation… and from there, it can get a little tricky!

Queer Love Is Beautiful,
Special and Nuanced:

Self-reliance is a strength. Coming out later in life can often mean long stretches of avoiding dating out of fear of being judged, or having little dating experience at all in life, or not quite understanding how to get dates in the first place.

Skepticism is a skill. Protecting mentally and emotionally is essential in a world that doesn’t understand us. But sometimes it creates an armor making it hard to be vulnerable, which can have a direct impact on relationships and dating.

Lesbian Culture is a support system. It can sometimes be tricky to navigate or even intimidating if you didn’t come out early, or if you are bisexual or a transgender woman. It can be incredibly lonely when it feels like no one understands or gets what you are going through.

How do you take all of the qualities that make you special, and attract a really amazing woman that adores you and cherishes you for who you are?

How do you find a true partnership? Someone that is ready for a deep, lasting, soul quenching relationship?

…and how do you do it during a

Here is what women tell me about what they want

You want someone who you enjoy spending time with and talking to.

Someone who is patient, kind, non-judgemental and maybe even a little edgy.

Someone you are attracted to that lights up like the sun when she sees you.

You want to feel like you can be yourself and not be judged.

You want someone positive with a sense of humor that helps bring out the best version of you.

Knowing all of that, where does
that leave you?

You have lived through challenging times,
which gives you an enormous heart.
You are filled with ambition, passion, and enjoy helping others.

So let’s start preparing your love life 
by first celebrating YOU!

Let’s celebrate all of the fascinating, heart shattering, epic experiences that have made you who you are and that have brought you to THIS MOMENT in your life. There is so much to celebrate as a single queer woman on the path to love.

So how can we find a way
to connect you to Ms. Right?

Here’s the challenge (in addition to social distancing), there are thousands of fantastic single women in the Little Gay Book Matchmaking Database.

Traditionally, the way they are matched up is through my matchmaking programs.

I work with women privately as their matchmaker, providing them personalized tips, training, resources and coaching.

I comb through the Little Gay Book Matchmaking Database, looking at all the different profiles, reaching out to potential women, and doing video interviews to find my clients incredible dates.

In between their dates I give my clients direct feedback on how to make a great first impression, how to carry conversations forward, we might talk about their non verbal communication, or I might share customized hair, clothes, and beauty resources.

There’s so much happening behind the scenes to help make their dating experiences absolutely fantastic. It’s a very personalized, very involved process, that I’ve refined for over a decade to get the best possible results.

Unfortunately, matchmaking isn’t 
a fit for everyone.

On top of that, I’m limited to only working with a handful of women privately each year due to time constraints. That’s why over the years I created the Lesbian/Bi Single Mingle Speed Dating events, currently in 10 major cities and online across the country.

I wanted to help women I couldn’t work with privately get matched up.

But even without a pandemic, not everyone can even make it to a live or even online event and it can take a lot if you are more of an introvert to get yourself psyched up to attend a speed dating event. Plus, let’s face it, we’ve all got Lockdown Hair right now.

I’ve been thinking of ways for years to get more women in the community connected and finding that special someone.

With so many of us on lockdown (or about to have it lifted), this is a unique opportunity to learn some of the most helpful queer dating nuances and love coaching guidance that I’ve refined over the last 10 years in my matchmaking process.

I am so honored to share with you my very special program that bridges some of the very best of what I do in the matchmaking, relationship coaching and speed dating worlds.

It’s my most popular program
and it’s unlike anything else that exists…

Drum Roll Please!

the Single, Sexy &
Queer Program A 5-Week online
celebration of you

This is for lesbian, bisexual, trans, and queer identifying women that are ready for love

This 5 week online group program is designed

to celebrate how amazing you are

while providing training to boost your ability to find and attract the kind of woman that you want to share your most special moments of life with. I’ve taken some of the most popular parts of my private Lesbian Matchmaking as well as Relationship Coaching process, where I teach clients how to build on their natural strengths, talents and beauty to magnetize fantastic women into their space. I’ve put all of that into what I teach in this 5 week SINGLE, SEXY & QUEER program for you!

My Matchmaking Process
Is Very Powerful.

Some women consider what I do to be almost like a magic spell.

The moment they join love synchronicities start happening everywhere they go. In fact, it’s really common for my matchmaking clients to start immediately meeting incredible women on their own- in addition to me introducing them to women. That’s because the intention of our work is powerful, the space is clear, and often, I’ve helped them prepare emotionally, physically and psychologically to truly open their hearts to love.

People come in and out of your life and some people make a special lasting impression on you.

Dr. Frankie or Hitch is one of those people who will make a big difference in your life. Hitch has been my dating coach for over four months now. I am a shy, overachieving nerd who has trouble setting boundaries and of course been looking for love in the wrong places. Hitch has made a positive impact on my life by giving me a makeover (yes, I look cooler), increased my confidence, balancing my work and personal life and of course gives me advice on how to approach the girls. I am most proud to say that Hitch has taught me about life and friendship because I know that Hitch is also my friend.

Dara, Pharmacist, age 40

I realized that this individualized process I do with many of my clients as it’s needed, often opens the floodgates for meeting women on their own—and that can be something I help you with as well!

That’s why I created Single, Sexy
& Queer

I’m ready to make beautiful things happen for you! The 5-Week Celebration Of You is designed to be fun, empowering, playful and safe, as we set you up for new love and partnership. My wish is for you to truly experience the vision of love you have deep in your heart.

Are you ready to be supported in falling head over heels in love? Let’s Go!

Here is how Single, Sexy & Queer Works

Private Coaching & Assessments

You’ll get access to personal assessments to help you discover your blind spots and unconscious communication habits, this is GOLD!

You’ll receive 2 private coaching sessions with me to integrate your experience, and learn how to use your natural strengths to attract the right partner (and repel the toxic ones).

Weekly Zoom Training Calls

I’ll provide training, dating trends in our community, tips and resources for the week, and you’ll be able to ask me any questions.

Plus, you’ll get quality time to connect in private breakout rooms in pairs to share experiences and connect with the other women 1 to 1.

Resources & Practices

You’ll get weekly exercises and practices, often customized exactly for you, that will have you feeling like the best version of yourself.

You’ll have peer support and accountability to practice building new habits in small groups, where you get to meet other fabulous single women on the journey.

It’s super easy,
fun and powerful!

Not only will you have time to get your questions
answered and get personalized support from me,
but you’ll also be meeting and connecting with
other fantastic single women!

I’m so excited to get you all 
connected to each other 
in this fun way!

This was a needed social activity during the pandemic.

Prior to signing up, I was not making dating a priority and not knowing how to change this. I had stopped trying to look good. SSQ was empowering! The community was welcoming and friendly! I was shocked at how much I enjoyed the skill of practicing party for many reasons. There were practical tips that eased my resistance to recognizing my power to feel attractive again and enjoy being thoughtful about how I present myself. The most important part was that I grew fond of everyone in the program. I feel better about myself and have new friends!

Summer S.

Think of it like having me (a clinical psychologist and lesbian matchmaker) as your big sister.

I want to celebrate you, show you how fantastic you are, and help you look and feel your best!

I’ve found that when women are feeling great about themselves mentally, physically and emotionally, we take bolder actions in life and become a magnet for what we want.

Here’s what we’ll
cover each week:

Week 1 Bringing Sexy Back

  • Learn activities to gain mastery in increasing your self confidence
  • Understand queer dynamics so you can feel sexy no matter where you fall on the butch-femme spectrum
  • Complete a Lifestyle Questionnaire to help shine a light on your blind spots
  • Learn the mindset flip that will address the #1 issue around getting dates
  • Practice new skills to transform negative/automatic/unproductive thoughts

Was there something terribly wrong with me?

After failures with online dating, the negative self-talk was building to a point where I was questioning my ability to attract women. I was struggling with early red flags to look out for and wanted to know where to meet people; what specific things to look for in finding long term, stable relationships and how to approach online dating. I longed for a sense of community in being able to connect with other like-minded, successful women that were also looking for the same things that I was. This program totally refreshed my perspective on dating. The section on “is it hormones or true love” was a powerful message in the training. I really enjoyed the breakout group time and how each week built up our confidence. I’m much more self-aware of my body language when out and about. Practice sparking conversations is now a focus of mine. I’m also more strategic in where to meet women as well. Thank you Dr. Frankie for putting your heart and soul into facilitating this powerful course, it was wonderful, fulfilling, and was managed meticulously. The quality and quantity of the takeaways was more than I could have ever imagined, all being delivered with a practical yet caring touch. Bringing women together from all over the country via an online platform is no easy feat, but it was conducted effortlessly. You will be invited to my wedding soon enough!

Mary F.

Week 2 Feelin’ Good

  • Learn super easy ways to highlight your best features
  • Identify your body type and the best jean cuts/fits for your exact body shape and personal style.
  • Discover different ways to enhance your beautiful eyes
  • Receive personalized tutorials that I’ll hand pick just for YOU taking into consideration where you are on the butch-femme spectrum and what looks you want to play with
  • Explore skincare treatments and beauty, hair, and grooming products that will have you feeling for your best.

I had done a lot of personal work so I wasn’t sure this was for me.

I also felt comfortable with my makeup and attire, and had worked with a private therapist, so I was hesitant to sign up. BUT, I wanted to meet quality women, and yet had proclaimed myself “anti-social,” saying that I value my time alone and using that as an excuse to not invest in myself or put myself out there to meet women. I decided, if I was going to do this, then I would be “all in,” and actually take action and see what happens. Positive results! I loved Dr. Frankie’s openness and honesty providing insight and tips. I also loved interacting with small groups. This surprised me as I’m not a group zoom person! I also loved the changes I made to skincare and clothing based on just this program! I have more confidence in myself overall. My close straight friend is also looking to date & she signed up for a high-end dating site, costing $25,000 for 15 months – and that’s the starting cost. I know that she is not getting nearly as much coaching, practical tips, insights, analysis as Dr. Frankie offered. I shared some things with her and she was very impressed! Thank you Dr. Frankie for having this amazing program, for offering insight, being real, and over delivering!

Michelle J.

Week 3 Are you gonna
be my girl?

  • Explore how to flirt during Covid through text, online, and Zoom, as well as in real life- and how to know when others are flirting with you
  • Practice skill building in a safe space around striking up a conversation online and in person with a woman you are attracted to
  • Learn this rarely discussed approach that will help you to never have awkward conversations online and in person
  • Learn the secrets to finding where your Ms. Right is hiding
  • Be challenged to stretch yourself outside of your comfort zone
  • Get clarity on if you are actually compatible with Her (or if it’s just hormones)
  • Learn the 6 qualifiers for finding long term love
  • Identify how you love when you are at your best (assessment)

I was missing out on so many opportunities to meet women due to my fear of speaking to them.

SSQ was a safe place for women to come together to learn how to put our best foot forward when seeking a healthy relationship. The weekly content and home assignments provided a wealth of knowledge. It’s not often you get the opportunity to work with someone like Dr. Frankie and I made sure I took a ton of notes. The process was very straightforward in a welcoming environment. The topics were absolutely amazing and I loved the breakout session exercises. I feel much more confident to talk to women. I took Dr. Frankie’s advice and complimented a woman at Starbucks on my way to work. She was on her phone checking her Facebook page and looked surprised that I spoke to her but she was really appreciative. We bumped into each other the next day at Starbucks and she waved! I am using this pandemic to continue to work on myself – I learned so much about myself in just 5 weeks and I plan to continue building on the foundation. You have to be an active participant in changing your life!

Kim P.

Week 4 Born This Way

  • Complete a Support System Evaluation so you can have support for all areas of your life
  • Learn how to work with and silence your inner critic
  • Learn the steps to transform toxic thoughts to healthy thoughts
  • Get practice trusting yourself
  • Discover your natural relationship & communication behaviors so you can better understand future partner dynamics (assessment)
  • Celebrate your wins in a circle of supportive women rooting for your best!!

I am making connections and new friendships even during COVID!

I was lacking a sense of growing community and wondering how to find like-minded LGBT women. In participating in Single, Sexy, & Queer, I found it so much more enjoyable to meet new women in a learning environment because we were primarily peers and having a shared journey through the weekly topics. We had a chance to start getting to know each other without any premature focus on attraction. I really appreciated that! I loved being able to learn and grow with a group of lesbian women- and feeling part of the group! I appreciated getting to know everyone either through the breakouts or just seeing everyone each week.

It became more comfortable and more fun with each session. My engagement increased throughout the program by doing each session’s homework and also through my one-on-one with Dr. Frankie. My social life feels more expanded. Thank you Dr. Frankie for taking such a respectful, intelligent, high-quality approach to the work you do, to the process of helping women meet each other, and to the work of creating a community and network of professional LGBT women.

Marlise C.

Week 5 “Practice Your Skills” Online Pride Party!

We will end our time together taking everything you learned and practicing your skills with high-caliber women like yourself, to prepare you for the real world.

The SINGLE, SEXY & QUEER “Practice Your Skills” Party is a fun, invitation-only, speed dating party that will be a combination of women from the program and a range of women on the butch-femme spectrum that I’ve handpicked to sprinkle into the party with each woman in the program in mind.

And to keep things fun, a little mysterious, and low pressure- you won’t know who’s been picked for you. That way you can stay focused on practicing your skills with each woman and if there’s a spark- even better! Regardless of what happens at the Skill Practicing Party, at the end of the program you will have the knowledge, skills and confidence to find your special someone when you are out working your magic in the world.

I learned that I was not flirting!

I get very discouraged with any kind of rejection and I had a sense that there were things I was doing or not doing to attract women, which is why I signed up for Single, Sexy, & Queer. I loved the instant feeling of community and sharing experiences with the other women in SSQ. Realizing that my experiences were not unique really helped. There was a good combination of feeling safe while I was stepping out of some comfort zones. I’ve had total frustration with online dating. During the program, I learned I was not letting people know I was interested. I got concrete tools that have already changed how I am approaching dating which feels great. It really made a clear, quantifiable difference in my romantic life. Thank you Dr. Frankie for your straightforward approach to things. It felt really easy to get advice and direction from you, without a whiff of judgment. It was also obvious how much you enjoy what you do which was lovely to be around. Thanks for using all your skills and smarts to bring more love into the world 🙂

Marjorie P.

In the Single, Sexy & Queer 5 week program you’ll get:

  • 1 month of my most popular and effective training on flirting, dating, and love ($1500 value)
  • Home assignments and accountability to integrate the training and practices ($750 value)
  • Q&A time with me to get your specific situation and questions answered (Priceless!)
  • Small group and paired up private breakout sessions, to connect 1 to 1 with women from the group (Priceless!)
  • 8- 10 skill practicing speed dates with quality women where you get to practice your skills in a low pressure, “real world” bubble of safety- so you can learn, bond, create lasting friendships, and possibly spark a love connection! All while meeting a mix of high-caliber women selected for the group ($5,000 value)
  • Receive personalized tutorials curated by me just for YOU taking into consideration where you are on the butch-femme spectrum and what looks you want to play with to highlight your best features ($1000 value)
  • Two private assessments to help you learn how you do what you do, why you do what you do, and what you do in terms of how you communicate in relationships (what you feel inside isn’t always how you are experienced on the outside) ($250 value)
  • Two private, 30-minute coaching sessions with me ($400 value)

This program is inclusive of bisexual and trans women who feel aconnection to the identity of “woman” and would like to meet more women.

I am a semi-recently out bisexual woman.

At times I’ve felt like I didn’t belong in the Queer Community. In joining Single, Sexy, and Queer, I didn’t feel alone. Doing the exercises made me realize how often I avoid certain situations, interactions, and events and yet remained bewildered that I wasn’t meeting people I could connect with. I loved that I got to break out in groups with other women to talk about our exercises, the struggles we had with them, and the successes. The exercises and talking about our experiences with them pushed the accountability on me to make sure I was participating. If I hadn’t joined SSQ, I would probably be passively moving through life and the pandemic, casually dipping into dating apps and hoping that my perfect person would jump at my screen and we’d go riding off into the socially distanced sunset together. I now look at dating and meeting potential partners in a completely different lens. Instead of casually looking through dating apps and seeing who pops up, I go in with intention and a very specific mindset. Thank you Dr. Frankie for pushing me to not only look at myself, but to make me think about what is really important in my life and what I want in a partner. It was so much fun! I still can’t believe how much I learned and how different I feel after only a month-long program.

Melissa M.

And that’s not all

I am bouncing off the walls excited to be able to offer, for the first time ever, Curated Mini-Dates as a very special upgrade option to the Single, Sexy & Queer Program.

A week after the Skill Practicing Party, you have the upgrade option to experience your very own “Most Eligible Bachelorette” virtual party, where you get to go on Mini-Dates with women that will be curated for you based on your location, age, butch-femme preferences, 2 deal-breakers, and 2 must-haves of your choice. I’ll take your preferences into consideration as I handpick women to be vetted for you.

I’ll Be Giving You Gifts for Many Parts of Your Life

You’ll meet 10 women. 6 curated for love sparks that live in the closest metropolitan areas to you and 4 as possible great new friends and/or serious business connections.

The Curated Mini-Dates upgrade includes a Private Preferences Call with me to help boost your chances of connecting with a match much more than the uncurated experience of Speed Dating.

Curated Mini-Dates are not to be confused with my matchmaking services.

My flagship, discreet, Private Matchmaking service is tens of thousands of dollars and we work together with me coaching and introducing you to one woman at a time over an extended period.
Curated Mini-Dates has you meeting several women during one virtual event, which involves much less of my time- allowing me to lower the cost for you. This is the closest thing to my personalized Matchmaking services that I’ve ever offered- and I can’t wait to start curating Mini-Dates for you!

Curated Mini-Dates are only available as part of a package with Single, Sexy, & Queer. I am only offering this for the women that have gone through the full Single, Sexy, and Queer program because I take a lot of pride in helping to make love connections. I want to know that you’ve done the work and are ready. Plus, it’s important to me that I know enough about who you are before I put the work into curating dates for you. I am so excited to help you find your match in this new, fun way!

As Jane and I are coming up on our second year anniversary – I wanted to take the time to thank you once again

For all the help you gave me during the time I was trying to come to grips with a fading relationship and preparing for a new journey of self-discovery. The work of really diving into my own strengths, weaknesses as well as my desires for partner characteristics prepared me for a wonderful life with my wife of two years. Being vulnerable enough to take a look at my own behavior(s) and how it impacts my relationships was a crucial element in helping me to find my true life partner. Thank you once again for your insights, provocative questions, as well as your kind, wise words.

Susan, age 45

So How Much Is The
Single, Sexy & Queer
5 Week Program?

My top clients pay me tens of thousands of dollars
to work with them privately.

I’m going to share with you some of the very things I train them on!
Plus, since this will be an online group setting, I’ll be able to do it for a fraction of the price.

Single, Sexy & Queer is $2500 for the full celebration of you.

That’s less than the cost of a couple of months of weekly private therapy sessions with me!
PLUS I’m Giving An Extra Special $250 off for COVID pricing.

And That’s Not All!
I’m Also Giving An Extra $250 off for Registering With The Pay In Full option

Let’s do this!

Click below to register now and save up to $2000 during COVID

The Curated Mini-Dates Upgrade Can Be Added At Any Time For $5000. If you know you are ready for this kind of support now, then you can save an additional $1500 when you purchase Single, Sexy, & Queer and the Curated Mini-Dates as one bundled package.


Option 1 Budget friendly

Single, Sexy & Queer
5-week program

3 monthly payments of $750
  • 1 month of some of my most popular dating training
  • 2 Private Coaching Calls with me
  • Group Q&A time with me
  • Breakout sessions to integrate (and meet women in the group)
  • Home assignments to put the training into practice
  • Online skill practicing party with up to 10 speed dates
  • 2 Private Assessments
  • Personalized Image Enhancement Tutorials
  • $250 off covid19 discount
  • 2 Months FREE Little Gay Book Community Membership (if registered by September 27th)

Yes! Dr. Frankie, I’m ready
for Single, Sexy & Queer!


Option 2 Best value

Save $500

Single, Sexy & Queer 5-week program

One-time payment of $2000
  • 1 month of some of my most popular dating training
  • 2 Private Coaching Calls with me
  • Group Q&A time with me
  • Breakout sessions to integrate (and meet women in the group)
  • Home assignments to put the training into practice
  • Online skill practicing party with up to 10 speed dates
  • 2 Private Assessments
  • Personalized Image Enhancement Tutorials
  • $250 off covid19 discount
  • $250 off pay in full discount
  • 2 Months FREE Little Gay Book Community Membership (if registered by September 27th)

Yes! Dr. Frankie, I’m ready
for Single, Sexy & Queer!


Option 3 Best support


Single, Sexy & Queer
5 week program
Curated Mini-Dates

One-time payment of $5500
  • 1 month of some of my most popular dating training
  • 2 Private Coaching Calls with me
  • 1 Private Preferences Call with me
  • Group Q&A time with me
  • Breakout sessions to integrate (and meet women in the group)
  • Home assignments to put the training into practice
  • Online skill practicing party with up to 10 speed dates
  • 2 Private Assessments
  • Personalized Image Enhancement Tutorials
  • 10 Curated Mini-Dates
  • $250 off covid19 discount
  • $250 off pay in full discount
  • $1500 bundled discount
  • 2 Months FREE Little Gay Book Community Membership (if registered by September 27th)

Yes! Dr. Frankie, I’m ready
for Single, Sexy & Queer!

I’ll be absolutely thrilled to help you take your love life to exhilarating heights – we are going to have so much fun together!

Dr. Frankie