Little Gay Book Lesbian/Bi Single Mingle FAQ’s

What *is* a Little Gay Book Lesbian/Bi “Single Mingle?”

Hosted by a trained Little Gay Book Event Host, a “Single Mingle” is a facilitated event focused on queer singles, meeting and getting to know each other, making real connections, leading to meaningful relationships. During the event, you will meet up to 10 people, in 5-minute dates, in less than 90 minutes.

* Due to Covid-19 all events will be held online until further notice *

Think of it as a series of “hosted introductions” similar to going to a house party with a competent host.

Our Event Hosts work hard to create an environment where each participant feels welcome, less awkward, and meets people that they wouldn’t normally meet. No need to pick anyone up, think about what you’re going to talk about or worry that they won’t be interested.

Who Attends Lesbian/Bi Single Mingle? Will I Find People “My” Age?

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The majority of our participants are busy professionals–successful singles who value their time. They come from all over, in all shapes, sizes, types, AND ages.  Surprisingly, it’s not all one age group who attend.

How Does the Texting Algorithm Work?

Prior to the event, you will receive an email and a text message with a link to your *confidential* speed dating profile. In your profile, you will be asked to provide 2 short answers: Where you fall on the masculine/feminine expression spectrum and where your preferred date falls on the same spectrum. Add the preferred age-range and you’re all set. The texting algorithm is designed to match your preferences as best it can, given who is in attendance and their selected preferences.

After each 5-minute round, you will receive a text message directing you to your next date. The more women that attend, the better! And while it’s not full matchmaking, this text messaging technology allows a more tailored experience than random, public speed dating.


How Do I Leave “Feedback” At The End of Each Five Minute Date?

At the end of each date, you’ll receive a “feedback” link. Feedback options include:

  • 2nd Date
  • Friend
  • Business
  • None
  • Never Again*
    *While everyone laughs at this one, it’s to ensure that repeat participants don’t go on 5-minute dates with people they’ve already met at previous Single Mingles.

You can choose one feedback option or all of them. We encourage you to choose more than one because the only way the system can “match” you after the event is only if both participants indicated the same feedback.

  • Example: You indicate “2nd Date” and she indicates “Friend.” = No Match.
  • You indicate “2nd Date” AND “Friend” and she indicates “Friend.” = Match on “Friend.”

What Should I Talk About On My 5-Minute “Date?”

You’ll see that once you start, the event just flows.  Here are four tips:

  1. Think about what you’d want to know about them before going on the date.
  2. Avoid the “What do you do for work?” question.  We all do many things in life. Ask your date about them.
  3. Refrain from talking about Ex’s. This is about the future. Keep your Ex’s where they belong in the past.
  4. If you like them, try to stand out and differentiate yourself from the others in a positive way. Tasteful humor and a light-hearted demeanor go a long way.

What if I Really Like My Date-Can’t I Just Ask Them Out Right Then?

While we can’t stop you from asking them out, we ask that you refrain from taking this first step out of respect for other attendees. Adhering to this will keep possible uncomfortable situations from arising and encourage everyone to feel welcome. Want to be sure you’ll see them again? Flirt a little and mark them as a “2nd Date,” in your feedback link.



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