Single Mingle speed dating

In-person Speed Dating Events Are Back!

Join us at one of our upcoming Lesbian/Bi/Trans Single Mingle’s IN PERSON in San Francisco and Los Angeles, and stay tuned for more in-person events in more cities coming soon.

San Francisco In Person Lesbian/Bi/Trans Speed Dating

November 30, 2022 | 630 PM PT

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Los Angeles In Person Lesbian/Bi/Trans Speed Dating

December 17, 2022 | 5 PM PT

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Online speed dating for singles across the US

Your dating life doesn’t have to shut down with the pandemic. Little Gay Book’s popular Single Mingle Personalized Speed Dating is back, online-only, and better than ever – so you can meet your dream matches while staying safe.

A laugh. A glance. A shiver of possibility running down your spine. A lot can happen in five minutes. When you attend a Single Mingle over the Zoom app, you’ll discover just how much potential five minutes can hold. Let me take care of the obstacles – the real connection is up to You.

Here’s How
It Works:

To attend, you’ll need a smartphone to share what type of matches you’re interested in, and a separate device with the Zoom app, to meet your speed dates.

At the Single Mingle Online Speed Dating Event, you’ll meet your matches in intimate break-out rooms, spend each five-minute round getting to know each other, and use matching technology to privately share whether you think they’re second date material, a new friend, or a business connection. 24 hours after the event, you’ll receive a smartphone message with each other’s contact info if you’ve matched.

Everyone who attends is looking to connect, and there’s the potential for lots of fun, great conversations, date matches, and friend matches. Come check one out!
Single Mingles are open to lesbians, bisexuals, queers, and nonbinary and genderqueer folks. They are a trans-welcoming space. Intolerance will not be permitted.


November 30 2022, 630pm PT

San Francisco In Person Lesbian/Bi/Trans Speed Dating

December 1 2022, 4pm PT

Career/Executive Minded Singles Lesbian/Bi /Trans Online Speed Dating

December 8 2022, 4pm PT

Jewish Singles Lesbian/Bi/Trans Online Speed Dating

December 15 2022, 4pm PT

Came Out Later In Life Singles Lesbian/Bi /Trans Online Speed Dating

December 17 2022, 5pm PT

Los Angeles In Person Lesbian/Bi/Trans Speed Dating

Curious about what it’s like?

Here’s what people are saying about their experience


Dr. Frankie told me two things over the course of our working together that will forever stand out to me. The first was,
‘you can’t take a transactional approach to a relationship.’ And the second was, ‘you chose to hire me as your matchmaker, now you need to trust me.’ My surrender to those two ideas was very impactful in the process of finding my partner.
When I learned about Dr. Frankie, I was immediately intrigued. Who wouldn’t be with her vast resume? So I reached out to her and I was quite surprised when she e-mailed me back personally within a couple of hours. Dr. Frankie gave me hope that my ‘wish list’ was attainable.
Moral of this story is that ‘Dr. Frankie is the real thing.’ With her psychology background and an enormous network of quality women, she tunes in to the important qualities her clients are searching for in a partner. And she is laser focused and committed to producing the right woman. She kept me in check when I needed it. But ultimately, I surrendered to her expertise and trusted her. And my life is so much richer because of her.
I will be forever grateful for that lazy Sunday afternoon when I came upon a professional matchmaker named Dr. Frankie Bashan.

Still feeling a little uncertain?

Here are answers to our most frequently asked questions:

What *is* a Little Gay Book Lesbian/Bi "Single Mingle?"

Hosted by a trained Little Gay Book Event Host, a “Single Mingle” is a facilitated event focused on single queer women, meeting and getting to know each other, making real connections, leading to meaningful relationships. During the event, you will meet up to 12 women, in 5 minute dates, in less than 90 minutes.

Who Attends Lesbian/Bi Single Mingle? Will I Find Women "My" Age?

Majority of our participants are busy professionals–successful women who value their time. They come from all over, in all shapes, sizes, types AND ages. Surprisingly, it’s not all women in one age group who attend. Often, we find a handful of one age group will attend (say 40-somethings), with a healthy side of other age groupers.

In certain markets (Chicago, Washington DC and San Francisco/Oakland), we’ve started hosting “age-specific” events. Age ranges include 21-39, 35+, 30-49 and 40-59. These events are generally quarterly and depend upon participant interest. We also host “Femme Seeking Femme” specific events as well as “Butch/Femme” events. If you’re interested in attending one of those specific events, please contact us.

Generally, we advise that if you’re truly open to meeting new women, you should attend more than one event, since you never know who you’re going to meet.

How Does the Texting Algorithm Work?

Prior to the event, you will receive an email and a text message with a link to your *confidential* speed dating profile. In your profile, you will be asked to provide 2 short answers: Where you fall on the masculine/feminine expression spectrum and where your preferred date falls on the same spectrum. Add the preferred age-range and you’re all set. The texting algorithm is designed to match your preferences as best it can, given who is in attendance and their selected preferences.

After each 5-minute round, you will receive a text message directing you to your next date. The more women that attend, the better! And while it’s not full matchmaking, this text messaging technology allows a more tailored experience than random, public speed dating.

How Do I Leave "Feedback" At The End of Each Five Minute Date?

At the end of each date, you’ll receive a “feedback” link. Feedback options include:

  • 2nd Date
  • Friend
  • Business
  • None
  • Never Again*

*While everyone laughs at this one, it’s to ensure that repeat participants don’t go on 5-minute dates with people they’ve already met at previous Single Mingles.

You can choose one feedback option or all of them. We encourage you to choose more than one because the only way the system can “match” you after the event is only if both participants indicated the same feedback.

  • Example: You indicate “2nd Date” and she indicates “Friend.” = No Match.
  • You indicate “2nd Date” AND “Friend” and she indicates “Friend.” = Match on “Friend.”

What Should I Talk About On My 5-Minute "Date?"

You’ll see that once you start, the event just flows. By round three, most women are chatting and having a great time. In case you need more convincing, here are four tips:

  1. Think about what you’d want to know about her before going on a date with her.
  2. Avoid the “What do you do?” question. Seriously? This is a tired question. We all do many things in life. Ask her about them.
  3. Refrain from talking about Ex’s. This is about the future. Keep your Ex’s where they belong in the past.
  4. If you like her, try to stand out and differentiate yourself from the others in a positive way. Tasteful humor and a light-hearted demeanor go a long way.

To keep the conversation going, we offer a list of “sample questions,” that include provocative questions like, “If you could be a superhero, what would your super-power be?”

What if I Really Like My Date–Can't I Just Ask Her Out Right Then?

While we can’t stop you from asking her out, we ask that you refrain from taking this first step out of respect for other attendees. Adhering to this will keep possible uncomfortable situations from arising and encourage everyone to feel welcome. Want to be sure you’ll see her again? Flirt with her a little and mark her as a “2nd Date,” in your feedback link.

Here’s what people experience
at our live Single Mingle events:

What’s next?

Join one of the events above to get started having real conversations, real connections, and real second dates.

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