The story

The beginning

Here is the beginning of my story. That’s my sassy self with my eldest cousin at my fifth birthday party in Brooklyn, New York. I was a precocious kid who loved to laugh with an infinite desire to connect with others, not much has changed :). I absolutely loved being silly and interacting with others, which inevitably lead me to my love of creating community and facilitating quality connections for women all over the country. Just by looking at this photo one might have guessed, I’d later become the CEO and Founder of the only Lesbian Matchmaking Agency exclusively for women in the country. What a beautiful gift I have been given and I am so incredibly grateful for it.

1998

I arranged my first successful match between my father and my eye doctor. They went on to have three children and were married for 25 years. I was 13 years old. I learned early on I had a gift and how magical it feels to facilitate the process of creating joy and love for people.

2001

Started graduate school at the Wright Institute for my Psy.D. in Clinical Psychology. I knew I wanted to work with people and I was too young to recognize that I could actually make a career out of my gift so I pursued a career in helping to heal people.

2005

Here I’m with my dad at my graduation, just a week after giving birth to my twins who are nearly launched!

2007

Offered a position at Kaiser Permanente working with adults primarily focusing on trauma and interpersonal relationships.

2008

Sweet Inaugural Cruise is where I actually began to gauge interest in whether women in our Community would actually consider matchmaking as an option for them. I was testing the market so to speak while having an amazing time helping the singles mix and mingle.

2008

Speed Dating on the cruise ship in the Carribean. I was testing the algorithm I had created without software for women interested in meeting women which is a mathematical nightmare but I got it to work with the help of a diagram!

2008

Sweet Caribbean Cruise

2008

The diagram that helped me rotate women successfully before I created software that would automatically rotate and match women based on their preferences.

2009

After nearly a decade focusing on clinical work with clients I pivoted and started to make my dreams a reality by harnessing my gift and opening the doors to Little Gay Book matchmaking. At the time I was a one man show offering matchmaking and coaching services to a handful of clients.

2009

My first stab at an actual marketing video. I recruited my amazing designer for talent! She was a good sport!

2009-2011

Joined the Board at the SFLGBT Center and helped to fundraise and coordinate their yearly soiree. Aside from wanting to give back to our community, I also wanted to meet fantastic singles who were moving and shaking in the world and who really cared about our beautiful colorful community!

2010

I was building my database from scratch which meant that I needed to pound the pavement by attending every single quality professional event where I would leave no stone unturned. It was my mission to meet every single professional, quality, eligible bachelorette that could potentially be a perfect match for one of my fantastic clients! I also found myself having to educate people on what a matchmaker actually does. When I introduced myself back then by approaching someone randomly and sharing about what I do, I would almost immediately get a perplexed look or laughter and curiosity. Naturally I jumped into explaining all about my passion and gift in the hopes they would take a risk on me and LGB.

2010

My first brochure that I had created that actually advertised my work as not only a matchmaker but a dating and relationship coach as well.

2011

LGB started offering live events for singles to mingle in upscale safe settings. First city was Oakland, then San Francisco, then LA, then New York City and so on...

2011

Gay Prom - This event kicked off LGB Speed Dating events in LA.

2011

My first magazine cover!

2011

My first Curve Feature

2012

I officially left Kaiser Permanente and hired Shelley joined LGB to help market and recruit amazing singles! And went full bore for Little Gay Book.

2012

One of my first shoots responding to Ask Dr. Frankie questions submitted on my website related to dating, relationships, intimacy and sex.

2012

Speed Dating at The Dalloway, NYC

2013

LGB Speed Dating events expanded to Hawaii with two events in one month leading to 3 couples and 2 marriages (as soon as same sex marriage was legal in Hawaii).

2013

My first speed dating flyers

2014

Temple of Ladies Pride Event, San Francisco

2015

My second series of responding live to questions submitted on my website to Ask Dr. Frankie

2015

Orson “Boom SF” - San Francisco

2015

Second Iteration of Speed Dating Flyers

2016

One of many of my successful matches offers to make a video capturing their experience working with me! All of a sudden I find myself in a director role!

2016

NYC, 49 Grove

2016

Expanded to Sacramento for Speed Dating

2016

NYC Single Mingle

2017

Second Curve feature

2017

Boston Emerald Lounge

2017

Oakland MUA Dinner Party

2017

Oakland Pride Party at Era Art Bar

2017

NPR Interview

2017

Shooting step-by-step videos for flirting techniques. Clearly this is a blooper!

2018

Developed software to take our speed dating events from paper and pen to digital

 

 

 

 

2018

Forgery, San Francisco

2018

Parliament, San Francisco

2018

Denver, Bigsby’s Folly Craft Winery

2018

Burlington, Vermont

2018

Seattle, St. John’s Bar and Eatery

2018

Worcester, MA, Bull Mansion

2018

Fusion Pride Party @ the Chapel in San Francisco

2019

Expanded to Houston - The Dogwood

2019

Participating in the Cast Selection for MTV’s Season 8 of "Are You the One"

2019

Auditioning for the role of Relationship Expert on "Are You the One" Season 8. Dating Relationship Expert on Season 8 of MTV’s Are You the One. An unscripted dating competition show made up of, for the first time ever, a sexually fluid cast on prime-time television. Additionally provided: Matchmaking consultation for the production team to use in their process of matching the contestants on the show. Also participated in the casting call and selection of the contestants.

2019

Tweeting with fans while watching AYTO over some vino, fancy pizza and good convo with close friends!

2019

MTV Television Interview - Talking Matchmaking and Relationships

2019

2019

Hanging offset with some of the NYC based cast member in NYC - Cow Girl Hall of Fame

2019

"Good Morning La La Land" Interview

2019

LGB 10th Anniversary Celebration @ District Oakland Single Mingle Event

2020

Speed Dating Events go virtual due to Covid

2020

TedX talk

2020

Single Sexy & Queer 5 Week Program

2020

Curated Mini Dates (CMD) Event

2020

LGBC New Member Mixer

2020

Virtual Pride Party with DJ Olga

2020

Speed Dating