The beginning
Here is the beginning of my story. That’s my sassy self with my eldest cousin at my fifth birthday party in Brooklyn, New York. I was a precocious kid who loved to laugh with an infinite desire to connect with others, not much has changed :). I absolutely loved being silly and interacting with others, which inevitably lead me to my love of creating community and facilitating quality connections for women all over the country. Just by looking at this photo one might have guessed, I’d later become the CEO and Founder of the only Lesbian Matchmaking Agency exclusively for women in the country. What a beautiful gift I have been given and I am so incredibly grateful for it.
1998
I arranged my first successful match between my father and my eye doctor. They went on to have three children and were married for 25 years. I was 13 years old. I learned early on I had a gift and how magical it feels to facilitate the process of creating joy and love for people.
2001
Started graduate school at the Wright Institute for my Psy.D. in Clinical Psychology. I knew I wanted to work with people and I was too young to recognize that I could actually make a career out of my gift so I pursued a career in helping to heal people.
2005
Here I’m with my dad at my graduation, just a week after giving birth to my twins who are nearly launched!
2007
Offered a position at Kaiser Permanente working with adults primarily focusing on trauma and interpersonal relationships.
2008
Sweet Inaugural Cruise is where I actually began to gauge interest in whether women in our Community would actually consider matchmaking as an option for them. I was testing the market so to speak while having an amazing time helping the singles mix and mingle.
2008
Speed Dating on the cruise ship in the Carribean. I was testing the algorithm I had created without software for women interested in meeting women which is a mathematical nightmare but I got it to work with the help of a diagram!
2008
Sweet Caribbean Cruise
2008
The diagram that helped me rotate women successfully before I created software that would automatically rotate and match women based on their preferences.
2009
After nearly a decade focusing on clinical work with clients I pivoted and started to make my dreams a reality by harnessing my gift and opening the doors to Little Gay Book matchmaking. At the time I was a one man show offering matchmaking and coaching services to a handful of clients.
2009
My first stab at an actual marketing video. I recruited my amazing designer for talent! She was a good sport!
2009-2011
Joined the Board at the SFLGBT Center and helped to fundraise and coordinate their yearly soiree. Aside from wanting to give back to our community, I also wanted to meet fantastic singles who were moving and shaking in the world and who really cared about our beautiful colorful community!
2010
I was building my database from scratch which meant that I needed to pound the pavement by attending every single quality professional event where I would leave no stone unturned. It was my mission to meet every single professional, quality, eligible bachelorette that could potentially be a perfect match for one of my fantastic clients! I also found myself having to educate people on what a matchmaker actually does. When I introduced myself back then by approaching someone randomly and sharing about what I do, I would almost immediately get a perplexed look or laughter and curiosity. Naturally I jumped into explaining all about my passion and gift in the hopes they would take a risk on me and LGB.
2010
My first brochure that I had created that actually advertised my work as not only a matchmaker but a dating and relationship coach as well.
2011
LGB started offering live events for singles to mingle in upscale safe settings. First city was Oakland, then San Francisco, then LA, then New York City and so on...
2011
Gay Prom - This event kicked off LGB Speed Dating events in LA.
2011
My first magazine cover!
2011
My first Curve Feature
2012
I officially left Kaiser Permanente and hired Shelley joined LGB to help market and recruit amazing singles! And went full bore for Little Gay Book.
2012
One of my first shoots responding to Ask Dr. Frankie questions submitted on my website related to dating, relationships, intimacy and sex.
2012
Speed Dating at The Dalloway, NYC
2013
LGB Speed Dating events expanded to Hawaii with two events in one month leading to 3 couples and 2 marriages (as soon as same sex marriage was legal in Hawaii).
2013
My first speed dating flyers
2014
Temple of Ladies Pride Event, San Francisco
2015
My second series of responding live to questions submitted on my website to Ask Dr. Frankie
2015
Orson “Boom SF” - San Francisco
2015
Second Iteration of Speed Dating Flyers
2016
One of many of my successful matches offers to make a video capturing their experience working with me! All of a sudden I find myself in a director role!
2016
NYC, 49 Grove
2016
Expanded to Sacramento for Speed Dating
2016
NYC Single Mingle
2017
Second Curve feature
2017
Boston Emerald Lounge
2017
Oakland MUA Dinner Party
2017
Oakland Pride Party at Era Art Bar
2017
NPR Interview
2017
Shooting step-by-step videos for flirting techniques. Clearly this is a blooper!
2018
Developed software to take our speed dating events from paper and pen to digital
2018
Forgery, San Francisco
2018
Parliament, San Francisco
2018
Denver, Bigsby’s Folly Craft Winery
2018
Burlington, Vermont
2018
Seattle, St. John’s Bar and Eatery
2018
Worcester, MA, Bull Mansion
2018
Fusion Pride Party @ the Chapel in San Francisco
2019
Expanded to Houston - The Dogwood
2019
Participating in the Cast Selection for MTV’s Season 8 of "Are You the One"
2019
Auditioning for the role of Relationship Expert on "Are You the One" Season 8.
Dating Relationship Expert on Season 8 of MTV’s Are You the One. An unscripted dating competition show made up of, for the first time ever, a sexually fluid cast on prime-time television. Additionally provided: Matchmaking consultation for the production team to use in their process of matching the contestants on the show. Also participated in the casting call and selection of the contestants.
2019
Tweeting with fans while watching AYTO over some vino, fancy pizza and good convo with close friends!
2019
MTV Television Interview - Talking Matchmaking and Relationships
2019
2019
Hanging offset with some of the NYC based cast member in NYC - Cow Girl Hall of Fame
2019
"Good Morning La La Land" Interview
2019
LGB 10th Anniversary Celebration @ District Oakland Single Mingle Event
2020
Speed Dating Events go virtual due to Covid
2020
TedX talk
2020
Single Sexy & Queer 5 Week Program
2020
Curated Mini Dates (CMD) Event
2020
LGBC New Member Mixer
2020
Virtual Pride Party with DJ Olga
2020
Speed Dating