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meet dr. frankie bashan

LGBTQ+ Matchmaker

I'm a firm believer in the power of love, and I'm on a mission to help others find, share, and experience it.

Love is a universal journey, but it’s not always easy. Building connections can be a fulfilling and inspiring adventure, but it can also feel overwhelming. That’s why, in 2009, I founded Little Gay Book, which has since become the leading LGBTQ+ matchmaking service in the United States. My passion lies in connecting humans who have achieved so much in life but are missing that special someone to share it with.

Whether you’re a shy introvert looking for support as you step out of your comfort zone or a confident extrovert who knows what you want but can’t seem to find it, my approach is tailored to you. Drawing from over two decades of experience in clinical psychology with lesbian, gay, queer, trans and bisexual couples and individuals, I bring an intuitive and emotionally intelligent perspective to my work. I’m a Sagittarius with an old soul, and I have a knack for putting people at ease. My energy, focus, and determination drive me in all aspects of life, especially in my mission to help people forge connections and find happiness and love. I’m incredibly proud of my unheard-of 85% success rate in matchmaking.

In addition to matchmaking, I’m also a sex therapist, integrating a holistic approach to pleasure and sexual connection into both my matchmaking and one-on-one practices. I understand that a fulfilling life includes all aspects of our relationships.

who I am

I’m terrified of heights.

I have an incredibly sensitive sense of smell.

I sometimes have anxiety that I’ve learned to deal with.

I am a native New Yorker with some attitude.

I am very confident but get nervous speaking in front of larger crowds.t

I’m incredibly hard-working and often don’t stop until it’s done the right way.

family

I absolutely love being a mother to my boy/girl twins.

My favorite two people in the world are my 15-year-old twins, Shea and Asher.

professional highlights

There is nothing more exciting to me than making a successful match.

I feel incredibly fortunate for the gift of intuition and a sixth sense when it comes to matching people for romance.

I will scour the ends of the earth to find my matchmaking clients a partner they can fall in love with.

 

what I love

I absolutely love to dance-usually till I drop!

I love to laugh and love making others laugh even more.

I love dark chocolate.

I love sexy smoky eyes.

I love “femme”-ing it up.

I love fashion design.

what I dislike

I dislike mean people, selfish people, and conceited people

I dislike phony.

what I believe

I believe we are all miracles.

I believe everyone deserves love and to be loved

fun facts about me

I prefer the beach over the snow any day.

I get carsick when in the passenger seat.

I often speak really fast and sometimes loud.

When I’m mad or have had two or more drinks, my New York accent is bound to come out.

I am directionally impaired and can get lost in a paper bag.

I can sometimes be a real ditz, causing people to joke that I should have been a blonde.

I sometimes wear wigs, especially when I’m feeling sassy.

I wanted to join the circus as a small child.

I enjoy lifting really heavy weights.

I do CrossFit-type workouts almost daily