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Jul 11 A Mini-Etiquette Lesson: A Primer for the Well-Intentioned Lesbian

This month’s article is a guest post by Shelley, one of my Relationship Consultants

Your_Team_Shelley_SimpsonAs a femme, I’m accustomed to lesbians querying me with inappropriate assumptions disguised as questions:
“Are you SURE you’re a lesbian?
“You’re bisexual aren’t you?”
“I’ve never met a lesbian that looks like you-Are you SURE you’re a lesbian?”

While I appreciate their raised eyebrows and admissions of surprise, I got to thinking: Where DO lesbians turn for advice on how to behave in social situations? Who DO we ask about how to engage the cute girl in the bathroom line or how to flirt at pride events? Read the rest of this entry »

Posted July 11th, 2014 by Dr. Frankie
May 12 My Own Conscious Uncoupling

Conscious UncouplingOn March 25, Gwyneth Paltrow & Chris Martin announced their divorce after over a decade of marriage, using the phrase “conscious uncoupling.” This announcement hit very close to home, for my partner and I, after over 10 years together, separated in mid-March. Read the rest of this entry »

Posted May 12th, 2014 by Dr. Frankie
Mar 12 Mating in Captivity: How Creating Distance Can Keep Us Together

In Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, couples therapist and author Esther Perel explores the possibility of sexual desire co-existing with intimacy. She points out the paradox in long-term relationships that creates conflict between the erotic and the domestic areas of life: “Love seeks closeness, but desire needs space to thrive.”  This post is the second in a series of posts in which we’re exploring how to love consciously, confidently and how to step into fear and not away from it. Read the rest of this entry »

Posted March 12th, 2014 by Dr. Frankie

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